Posts Tagged ‘commitment’

Quote of the Day

Tuesday, September 15th, 2015

The true definition of love is not about fleeting emotions but a secure, anchored commitment that stands the test of time. -Ashley McIlwain

Anchored

Quote of the Day

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

Commitment is the first necessary ingredient to longevity. –Charles Swindoll

Longevity

Quote of the Day

Thursday, April 9th, 2015

Love in marriage doesn’t lead you to commitment; commitment in marriage leads you to love. –Adrian Rogers

commitment

Quote of the Day

Thursday, March 6th, 2014

The true definition of love is not about fleeting emotions but a secure, anchored commitment that stands the test of time. –Ashley McIlwain

Anchored

Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

TalkingTuesdayShare your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

How do you think others view your marriage?

I’ll get us started …

I think this is a great question to ask ourselves because it reminds us that others are watching us and are impacted by the success or failure of our marriage. We don’t have kids yet, but if you do, these are the first people you should be concerned about in regards to how they view your marriage. Your marriage is where they learn about love, security, communication, handling conflict, and commitment among many other things and lessons. I would encourage you to even ask your kids how they view your marriage. It could be very eye-opening.

Aside from children, I think it’s good to wonder how your family and friends view your marriage because it can give you insight into your strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes they can see things you can’t. In general I think people would say that they view Steve’s and my marriage as fun, strong, and encouraging. We love each other, and try to model our love after the Lord’s. I believe others see that, and I hope they would see our marriage as a great example of what a biblical marriage looks like. To be honest though, it’s a question I would like to ask our family and friends. To have them be very honest with us because again, I believe there’s a lot of insight that can be gleaned from those who love us and are looking in from the outside.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Noteworthy: Oh Sweet Lorraine

Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Noteworthy

Every once in a while a story comes on my radar about love and marriage that moves me to tears. A story that renews my hope that there are still people out there that believe in the blessing and holiness of marriage. People that are still committed to the covenant of their marriage. These stories encourage me, excite me, and remind me of why I am so passionate about helping marriages.

One such story was brought to my attention recently by my brother-in-law, Jeremy. It’s a story about a man named Fred Stobaugh. Fred, a 96-year-old man, recently lost his wife of 73 years, Lorraine. That’s right, 73 years of marriage! Fred said of his late wife that she was the prettiest girl he ever saw, and it was love at first sight.

Green Shoe Studio hosted a local songwriters contest in Illinois, and Fred, who couldn’t stop humming a tune about his beloved, decided to write down his song and submit it. While Fred’s entry didn’t meet the criteria for the contest, Green Shoe Studio was so touched by Fred’s story and song, “Oh Sweet Lorraine,” that they produced the song along with a video telling the story behind it.

The video and Fred’s story have gone viral, which tells me that people still crave the old-fashioned formula for marriage – a husband and wife who share a love that lasts their lifetime. A true blue fairytale of the real deal love and commitment.

There is no doubt, this is a story and a song that will touch your heart. Take a look, and purchase a copy of Oh Sweet Lorraine here. Enjoy, and let me know what you think …

A Letter From Fred from Green Shoe Studio on Vimeo.

Noteworthy: Try

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

Most of us are familiar with heartbreak and difficulty within the context of relationships. Whether it’s a break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, or an intense argument with your spouse, relationships are full up ups and downs. If you are married, you are most likely no stranger to feelings of hurt, frustration, and upset because every marriage encounters challenging moments.

While it can be easy to find yourself feeling hopeless, discouraged, and disheartened, overcoming those emotions and pushing through those tough times is what leads to a stronger, healthier, and thriving marriage or relationship. Life is a constant work in progress where we have to be willing to learn, grow, and adjust as individuals and as a couple. Since triumph and effort are such prominent themes in relationships, I thought it appropriate to share a song I found that helps encourage its listener to keep working hard and not give up.

Try by Natasha Bedingfield is the song I’m talking about. It’s off her latest album Strip Me, which hit stores in December of 2010. Try tackles the necessity to keep fighting for the love of your life. Obviously I don’t agree with everything in this song nor would I encourage couples who aren’t married to fight for an unhealthy relationship. That being said, this song really struck a chord with me for couples or individuals who are struggling in their marriage particularly. I love its emphasis on personal responsibility and effort, as conveyed in the title Try.

Take a listen for yourself, and then look below for a snippet of lyrics and where to find this song if you want to add it to your media library.

Don’t throw it away just because it’s broken

‘Cause anything can mend

Don’t call it a day just because the road’s blocked

Doesn’t mean we’re at the end

If it’s something you love, you don’t leave it

If it’s something you care for, you keep it

It’s never too far, it’s never too late

To tell someone “you’re the only one”

And even if it’s hard, it’s never goodbye

If you love someone, then you try try try try

Don’t jump the train just because it’s not moving

Doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong track

I’ll always remain even if the wind blows

I won’t let go, I won’t give up

And if we fight, we’ll only fight for us

Might not have much

But what we got is more than enough

‘Cause what we got is love

 

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Taking Out the Trash: Extend

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

Often times we get caught up in what our spouse does wrong. We play the blame game and point our finger without every really examining ourselves with such scrutiny. Taking out the trash requires the ability to look at what you are bringing into the marriage that might not belong. It’s trying to identify, confess, and workout the baggage or problematic patterns that need to change for the betterment of your marriage. As a result, we need grace from our spouse, and we need to remember to also extend grace to our spouse.

Just like us, our spouse brings baggage into the marriage. Sometimes they can see it and sometimes not. Sometimes they are willing to hear you out on it, and sometimes they aren’t. Ideally it should be a reciprocating thing where both people can acknowledge their brokenness, identify the problematic areas, confess those problematic areas to each other and to God, and then work through it all together. We need grace and need to extend grace. Sometimes things don’t work out super balanced like that though. In those times we still need to display grace, love, and forgiveness to our spouse out of recognition that we too are broken. When you realize that you aren’t perfect, it helps you to forgive your spouse’s imperfections.

Extending grace, love, and forgiveness despite the brokenness of our spouse is our way of showing our commitment to them. It shows our understanding of our own shortcomings and brokenness, and it leaves room for both people to work through it all. So the final step in this process is to extend grace to our spouse amidst their humanity.

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