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Love Tip

Wednesday, December 9th, 2015

Surround yourself with people who genuinely love you and tell you what you need to hear, even if it’s not what you want to hear!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

TalkingTuesdayShare your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

How do you think others view your marriage?

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I think this is a great question to ask ourselves because it reminds us that others are watching us and are impacted by the success or failure of our marriage. We don’t have kids yet, but if you do, these are the first people you should be concerned about in regards to how they view your marriage. Your marriage is where they learn about love, security, communication, handling conflict, and commitment among many other things and lessons. I would encourage you to even ask your kids how they view your marriage. It could be very eye-opening.

Aside from children, I think it’s good to wonder how your family and friends view your marriage because it can give you insight into your strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes they can see things you can’t. In general I think people would say that they view Steve’s and my marriage as fun, strong, and encouraging. We love each other, and try to model our love after the Lord’s. I believe others see that, and I hope they would see our marriage as a great example of what a biblical marriage looks like. To be honest though, it’s a question I would like to ask our family and friends. To have them be very honest with us because again, I believe there’s a lot of insight that can be gleaned from those who love us and are looking in from the outside.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, April 2nd, 2013

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How was your Easter? What was your favorite part?

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We had an absolutely amazing and blessed Easter this year! We invited 4 of our friends to come to church with us, and then we hosted a big feast at our house after. I made ham, cornbread stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy, candied yams, homemade rolls, egg noodles in ham broth, and strawberry lemonade. For dessert I made banoffee pies (a graham crack crust filled with bananas and toffee and topped with cool whip and chocolate shavings) and “bird’s nest” cookies. I pulled out the china and crystal and really tried to make it a special occasion.

Despite all of the hard work, it was one of the best Easter’s I’ve had as an adult! It was such an honor to invite people into our home that live far from their families like us. I feel like hospitality is a bit of a dying concept, especially among younger people, so I thoroughly enjoyed helping it make a comeback at least in our home J What a blessed Easter it was through and through!

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, January 29th, 2013

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Anyone doing something fun for the Super Bowl? If so, what? Who are you all rooting for?

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My hubs and I are pretty pumped for the Super Bowl because he is a big 49ers fan having grown up in the Bay Area. While I’m a true blue Steeler’s fan through and through, they obviously aren’t in the Super Bowl, so I’ve elected to cheers for my hub’s team this year. I’m pretty thrilled for him because I know it’s fun to have your team at the big dance.

This year we’ve decided to host a little get together for the Super Bowl. Steve loves to BBQ, so he’s got some ideas planned for that while I’m tackling dessert and some apps. We’re really looking forward to having some friends over and cheering on the 49ers!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, November 15th, 2011

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How do you express gratitude in your life – to God, your spouse, family, friends?

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I think it is absolutely essential to count one’s blessings. It’s easy to get caught up in so much of what we don’t have when in fact, taking a moment to look around, it’s apparent that we are in abundance. Gratitude is something that I want to be a part of my daily life. I want to be thankful for all that God’s graciously given me. Going a step further though, I want to express that gratitude, not just keep it bottled up inside.

Expressing gratitude is such a source of encouragement for others. Think about a time someone genuinely thanked you for something. If you’re like me, it made you bubble up with joy. That’s what I want to do for others. One of my favorite things to do for this is to go old school. I pull out my pen and a card to jot down my thoughts and mail it off snail mail. Most of the time mail is bills and junk, so receiving a letter is always a fun treat in and of itself. Then to open it to find someone telling you how much they appreciate you … double bonus! With my husband, I obviously don’t mail it, but I try to place it in a spot I know he will find when I am not around (i.e. his car).

Think about how nice it is to feel encouraged and appreciated. It’s a spectacular feeling, so why not bless someone else in the way they’ve blessed you? There’s no such think about being too grateful .

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A Birthday Celebration of Love

Friday, June 24th, 2011

As I mentioned in my recent article A Celebration of Life, birthdays are definitely a big deal for me, my family, and now my husband. It’s truly a time to rejoice and celebrate the gift of life. Whether it’s taking time to remember all the blessings, lessons learned, and memories made or making the effort to express the value of a loved one in your life, birthdays are the perfect opportunity to do just that.

Like every year, I plotted and planned for months to come up with the perfect way to celebrate my husband’s birthday – after all this is my yearly tribute to the gift that he is in my life. I finally settled on our agenda that started Friday (June 17th) on his actual birthday and stretched through the weekend to Sunday.

Friday morning I kicked off his actual birthday with what has become a yearly, birthday tradition – fresh, homemade cherry cheesecake muffins and my own private rendition of Happy Birthday sang first thing in the morning before he left for work. That was followed by a lunch date at the restaurant of his choice, which ended up being the always delicious Chick-fil-A. When Steve arrived home, we got dolled up to head out to dinner at Roy’s, a restaurant we fell in love with on our visit to the Big Island of Hawaii. Personalized menus with a birthday greeting, confetti on the table, and a framed picture to remember the night by, Roy’s has got hospitality down to a science. We finished the night off with Steve opening his birthday gifts and cards – always a fun part of celebrating.

The weekend continued Saturday morning with some laid back, old married couple style running around town. We love doing simple things like that together, and we even ventured out to another of Steve’s favorite places to eat for lunch, Cosi. After enjoying our average morning and afternoon out and about, we came home to prep for our evening plans – a BBQ with two of our favorite friends Ryan and Diane. With our special company by our sides, we had a delicious dinner, lots of laughing, and a Coldstone birthday cake remix ice cream cake (pretty much the greatest thing ever) to top off day two of our celebrations.

Sunday was the big celebration day that I had planned for Steve. We got up bright and early, grabbed some coffees and breakfast, and headed over to Balboa Island to catch our ride to Catalina Island for the day. Once onboard, we enjoyed the much longer and choppier ride than we had anticipated over to the island. We had heard mixed reviews of Catalina Island; some people thought it was great while others weren’t such big fans, but we opted to leave expectations at the door and arrive at the island with an open mind.

Upon arrival to the main town, Avalon, we instantly loved its quaint appeal. It was an interesting hybrid of a Mediterranean escape meets small, Americana town. The water was gorgeous, the shops adorable, restaurants interesting, and the overall vibe inviting. After walking through the limited number of streets, we picked up a mid-morning snack and went straight to our big adventure for the day – the two hour long zip line eco tour as seen in The Bachelor Pad.

On our honeymoon we had ventured to go on a zip line tour and loved it, so I thought this would be the perfect activity for us to tackle in celebration of Steve. It was even better than our previous zip line experience; it was incredible! The views were spectacular, the zip lines were long, fast, and exhilarating, and the tour guides were fabulous and funny. We loved every second of it and would highly recommend it to anyone headed to Catalina any time soon.

After having our big thrill for the day, we walked hand-in-hand weaving through the shops and reading menus to find our re-fueling station. We settled on a place called Original Jack’s Country Kitchen, and it was … interesting. Bellies somewhat full, we hit up some of the local candy and ice cream shops where we over-indulged in a lot of junk food that was delightful and well worth the calories. We finished off our short stint on Catalina Island by grabbing some touristy memorabilia, and then heading back to our boat for the trek back to Newport Beach.

Exhausted from all of our weekend fun, we stumbled back to our car, picked up dinner, and headed home to snuggle up for the night. It was such a fun weekend as we celebrated the gift of Steve’s life and forged new memories to look back fondly on. Birthdays are such an incredible opportunity to take time to appreciate all of your blessings in life, especially those you love!

Anyone else have any fun birthday traditions, excursions, or memories to share?

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

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What did you do to celebrate Memorial Day and enjoy a long weekend?

Steve and I enjoyed a wonderful long weekend. Friday night he surprised me with an incredible dinner to celebrate the 1 year anniversary of Foundation Restoration as a non-profit organization. We went to a delicious restaurant right on the ocean’s edge called Splashes. The night was even a little more special when our friend, Loryn, who is doing an externship there was able to come out in her adorable chef’s outfit to hand deliver our dessert. It was an incredible night with a lot to celebrate.

Saturday we joined some friends to watch the UEFA champions league championship game. While my team, Machester United was defeated by the extremely talented Barcelona, it was a fun day. Afterwards we enjoyed some quality time together by walking in some of the amazing parks we have here in Irvine, CA. That was followed by church Saturday night. Sunday was a day that was all about quality time and relaxation together, which was much needed.

To top of the long weekend, yesterday we got together with a group of our amazing friends for a beach day. One of the couples news of a hidden cove that ended up being the perfect spot to  park ourselves for a relaxing yet fun day of sun and friends. After we soaked up all the sun we could get, we headed back to one of the couples’ house for a BBQ. It was a really fun, wonderful weekend that I enjoyed every moment of.

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The Right Spouse: Importance for Others

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

In the Biblical story of Mary & Joseph, we learn a lot about the importance of making a wise selection for our spouse. Yesterday I mentioned how that selection is important for you, and today I want to talk about the importance for others. Whether we realize it or not, making a wise choice for a spouse affects much more than just us.

When we look at Mary & Joseph we see that both Mary and Joseph were really incredible people of strong character. Together they were able to make it through an incredible journey of faith. Yesterday I talked about how it’s important to choose the right spouse for yourself in order to reach your full potential and fulfill your life’s purpose, passions, and goals. Choosing the right spouse also provides that opportunity to your spouse as well. When you make a wise life partner selection, you provide them with the opportunity to fulfill their life’s purpose, passions, and goals. You get behind that person and push them to be all that they can be. You are a team and want each other to blossom as big and bright as possible. You both end up with a sense of fulfillment, joy, and purpose because you are bringing out the best in one another.

Your spouse isn’t the only other person strongly affected by your choice. Most people end up having children together, and their life’s course is greatly affected by the choice in spouse that you make. When you have a good, healthy, and strong marriage, you are providing a solid foundation for your child to have the healthiest and best life possible. Not only does it provide the essential balance in children’s lives to have both parents in the house, but it also increases their chances for having a healthy and successful marriage too. Their mental and physical health are greatly increased as well as their behavioral patterns. A strong marriage is the best gift that can be given to a child because it gives them their best shot at reaching their full potential. That’s why when you are dating, you need to seriously consider that your choice in a spouse is going to have a huge impact on the success of your children’s lives.

Finally, your choice in spouse affects your family & friends. So many times people think what other people are saying is irrelevant because it’s “their life.” While I don’t think other people should make decisions for you, their input is important in this arena because it affects them too. When you marry someone who hurts you, makes you miserable, stifles your passions, and/or brings out the worst in you, that has a major domino effect on those closest to you. It hurts others too. If someone is seriously hurting your relationship with loved ones, you might want to take a second look to better examine why. While family & friends shouldn’t be the ones to ultimately make your decision for you, listening to what they are saying is important. It gives you an outside perspective that you should at least consider to figure out if their concerns are valid or not, especially since they will have to live with your decision as well.

Choosing your spouse wisely strongly affects you, your spouse, your future children, and your family & friends. It’s a major decision that should be made thoughtfully, carefully, and cautiously. Make sure it’s not just based off of emotions. Consider important questions, if you are compatible, if your lives are going in the same directions, if you bring out the best in one another, if he/she possesses essential qualities…be realistic and logical to a large degree because it is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

Feeling the Love: Love Tip

Friday, February 12th, 2010

Valentine’s Day is a nice reminder to appreciate our loved ones. It’s not just about flowers and chocolates. It’s about digging deeper to express sincere and heartfelt love and appreciation to our loved ones. We all need a little reminder once and awhile to not take those special people for granted, and that’s exactly what Valentine’s Day can be for you this year…a reminder.

While most of you probably already have your plans in order for this weekend’s Valentine celebrations, I thought I would post some ideas for each of the groups I addressed this week. Feel free to use them for this weekend if you are still hunting for something special to do or use it in the future whenever you are looking for a sweet idea to do with your sweetheart.

  • Yourself – As I mentioned on Tuesday of this week, realizing your value is so important! It helps you to feel great about yourself, and it also sets you up to not settle in relationships. Here are some ways to show a little love to yourself this Valentine’s Day:
    • Grab your favorite snack, your favorite movie, and your favorite blanket. Take all of the above into your bed and snuggle up to a relaxing night in your favorite pjs with all your favorite things.
    • Pack a little meal for yourself, grab a journal (or pen & paper if you don’t have one) and a blanket, and head to the nearest park or beach. Take some time to write down where you are at in life – things you hope to accomplish, where you want to be 5, 10, and 15 years from now, what you want in your spouse, what you hope your life looks like, things you are going through, things you have come through, etc.
    • Treat yourself with one of your favorite indulgences – schedule a massage, get a mani/pedi, play a round of golf, whatever you love that you wouldn’t normally treat yourself to – schedule, relax, and enjoy it!
  • Family & Friends – Family & friends are our support group. Family has been there from the start, and if you are like me, they mean an awful lot to you. Why not show some love and appreciation to them this Valentine’s Day:
    • Write down 5 reasons you love that person inside a homemade Valentine’s card & either snail mail it or hand deliver it to them at a time they aren’t expecting it.
    • Make one of their favorite goodies, put it in a pretty tin (you can get one from the Dollar Store or Wal-Mart), and wrap a ribbon around it with a note that says something like “The sweetest thing is having you in my life.” Hand deliver it to them if you can at their work or home (if you can’t hand deliver it, send a care package).
    • Treat them to a coffee or ice cream run. Make sure when you are spending that quality time with them that you make sure to tell them how much they mean to you.
  • Spouse – Choosing our spouse is one of the few lifelong decisions that we make, which is why we have to work extra hard to make sure we make the most of our marriages – it affects you for the rest of your life. Your spouse is one of the most important people that will ever enter your life, make sure to treat them extra special each and every day. Try one of these ideas:
    • Make your spouse on of his/her favorite meals. Complete it with candles, your special dishware (if you have some, like china), and some soft, instrumental background music. Go all out as if it’s a 5 star restaurant (even if his/her favorite food is less than fancy). Make sure that you toast to your marriage and how much you love your spouse.
    • On a nice piece of paper, write down 10 things you love about your spouse (feel free to decorate it). Roll it up and tie a ribbon around it. Pack it along with a picnic meal and blanket, and take your spouse to a sweet, romantic spot (like a park, beach, or your back yard). Give your spouse their scroll of “I love you’s” and then spend quality time together just holding one another and talking about life.
    • A more costly choice, plan a couples massage at a spa. Take the day to relax, lounge, and be pampered together without the distractions of phones, TVs, etc. Write a little love note to slip into his/her bag that he/she is sure to find when they get changed. Be extra touchy and lovey for the day.

I hope that each and every one of you has a fantastic and love-filled Valentine’s Day! Let me know how it goes 🙂

Feeling the Love: Family & Friends

Thursday, February 11th, 2010

Often times I have heard singles talk about how much Valentine’s Day stinks because they don’t have a significant other. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to just be about romantic relationships though. Don’t forget about the rest of your loved ones – family & friends.

When I think about the people I love the most, there is of course my husband, but there is also my family. Granted I have been blessed with an amazing family, but I think about how important family truly is. Family is our foundation in life, which is why I always push so hard for couples to work so hard on their marriages. Marriages are the backbone of families and ultimately society. Of course some of you aren’t so fortunate as to have intact families or perhaps some of you have experienced a lot of hurt and pain through your family. My encouragement to you would be to find what love or relationship there is with at least someone in your family. If you have been blessed with an great family, then focus on that. Take time to do something special or at least share your gratitude and love with your family members. If you are like me, they more than deserve a good pat on the back and some affirmation this Valentine’s Day.

Friends can also be a lot like family too. For me great, true blue friends are hard to find, so the few that I have, I want to make sure I cherish. Some of you might not have the greatest family life, so those friendships might be the closest thing you have to family. Regardless, friendships need love, gratitude, and affirmation as well. Take the time this Valentine’s Day to tell those other important supporting figures just how much you appreciate them. Maybe it’s just a phone call or perhaps you can send them a little care package. A simple card or a coffee date can really make a person’s day.

Valentine’s Day is a day to remind ourselves of the love all around us – romantic, within ourselves, platonic, with family. We often forget or take all of our relationships for granted for one reason or another. This weekend is the perfect time to start a new trend and demonstrate & communicate your love to all those special people around you as well as to yourself. Feel the love!