Posts Tagged ‘gift’

Quote of the Day

Friday, May 27th, 2016

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman’s heart. -Josiah G. Holland


Last Chance!

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

Last Chance 2014Don’t miss out on the opportunity to partner with us here at Foundation Restoration in restoring the foundation of society — marriages! Click here to read a letter from our Founder and CEO, Ashley McIlwain, letting you know what we’ve been up to and some exciting things planned for 2015!

There are 3 easy ways to give:

  1. Send your check or money order payable to Foundation Restoration to: 9650 Strickland Rd., Suite 103-180, Raleigh, NC 27615.
  2. Give online through PayPal with your credit card. We have both one time and monthly options. Visit for this option.
  3. Set up a monthly or one-time payment through your bank’s bill pay option. Sign into your online banking, go to your payee’s, and enter in Foundation Restoration and our mailing address (9650 Strickland Rd., Suite 103-180, Raleigh, NC 27615), the amount you want to give and the frequency, and when you want them to send it. (*This is one of the easiest options for you and for us because it makes it automatic for you, so you don’t have to worry about remembering, but it also means we don’t get hit with fees. In other words, we get to use 100% of the donation you give with this option.)

Thank you for your generosity!

Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, December 11th, 2012

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What is your favorite part of Christmas?

I’ll get us started …

My favorite part of Christmas is the very heart of its existence. The fact that we have joy, peace, comfort, and hope through the Savior we so desperately need. No other religion has a god like Thee God. Our God is the only one that doesn’t say we have to earn His love, forgiveness, grace, or eternal life. In fact, He says that we can’t! It’s a gift He gives us, and it came in the humble form of a baby in Bethlehem long ago who ended up paying the ultimate price for all of our sins that death would lose its sting, and we would have hope in a dark and broken world.

That is what Christmas is about – true hope and joy that penetrates and permeates the very soul. The ultimate gift that can’t help but make us want to burst out in song, praise, and laughter. That makes us want to spread cheer and extend that same love and generosity that was extended to us when we least deserved it.

While I love the lights, carols, trees, movies, hot cocoa, baking, and presents, they are shadows in the light of the greatest, most amazing, timeless gift of all – Jesus, our Immanuel, God with us.

Okay, it’s your turn!

If you have a question you would like to see asked in our weekly Talking Tuesday discussions, we want to know what it is! Just contact us with your idea!

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Noteworthy: Grace

Thursday, November 8th, 2012

By Ashley McIlwain


This word packs so much power and punch to it. It’s a word that describes what we desperately need, sometimes struggle to receive, and often fail to give yet must. It’s a word cloaked in mystery while still being transparent. Relationships of all kinds depend on it, while as individuals we all seek it.

Grace is defined as mercy; clemency; pardon. It’s this concept that we are given a gift that is undeserved and unearned. I’m reminded of Ephesians 2:8-9, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by your works, so that no one can boast.” The ultimate example of grace was set by God who gave us the gift of salvation, freedom, and forgiveness through the gracious sacrifice and resurrection of His son, Jesus Christ when we were so unworthy.

How many times do we forget this gift of grace we’ve been given? We get wronged or hurt by someone, and we assume the worst about their intentions. We seek vengeance, punishment, and justice. Our hearts become hardened, and we seek out what is fair instead of what is right. Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace.” What if we applied that to our relationships, especially our marriage?

Grace doesn’t mean defenseless, weak, or taken advantage of. It means wisdom, love, and self-control. Remember that you were given grace freely and undeservedly, so be gentle and kind in your assumptions and reactions. Proverbs 17: 27 says, “A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” Display and offer the grace you’ve received and seek.

In all aspects of life, whether in a marriage, friendship, or an internal struggle, grace is a key component. It seeks understanding, wisdom, and discernment. This brings me to a song that I wanted to share with you this month. It’s by one of my favorite bands (fellow Palm Beach Atlantic University alum), Tenth Avenue North. It’s called, Grace off of their new album The Struggle (which is an amazing album by the way), and I think it might soften your heart like it did mine. It reminded me of the power and importance of grace in everyday living.

Check it out, and let me know what you think.

P.s. The guys are currently touring right now, and it’s a really great concert! Here’s a list of their tour dates and locations, go check them out!

Check it out, and let me know what you think.

P.s. The guys are currently touring right now, and it’s a really great concert! Here’s a list of their tour dates and locations, go check them out!

Noteworthy: God Gave Me You

Thursday, August 16th, 2012

By Ashley McIlwain

Something I have come to value highly in my marriage is the companionship it provides. The fact that my husband is by my side in the good and bad, highs and lows, laughter and sorrow is a blessing of monumental proportions. There is such strength and comfort that comes from walking through life with him hand-in-hand.

My marriage to Steve isn’t a fluke, mistake, or random act of fate though. It’s an undeniable work of God. God gave me Steve, and I have no doubt about that. He is my treasured blessing and gift sent down from my Heavenly Father who knew just what I needed in a husband. Boy, am I thankful for that!

Thinking about this reminded me of a song by Blake Shelton called, God Gave Me You. In this song, Blake so perfectly summarizes the awesome companionship of a loving spouse and just what a joy it is. And it reminds me of how thoughtful our Creator was to establish marriage for us to have someone to travel along life’s roads with. He knew what we needed long before we did.

Genesis 2:18 says, “The Lord God said ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” There are so many times in my life where I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God gave me Steve, and I can’t help but get overwhelmed by that gracious and perfect gift. He is my best friend, lover, partner, and leader.

I don’t know about you, but it’s nice to stop and realize what a blessing my husband is and just how much he enriches my life. His love and friendship are constant reminders of just how good God is.

Check out Blake Shelton’s, God Gave Me You, and let me know what you think.

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Year-End Gift

Friday, December 17th, 2010

Dear Little Wifey readers,

My husband, Steve, and I want to wish you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas.  As many of you know, the past couple of years have been very exciting – full of many challenges and blessings, which have culminated into the creation and federal approval for our non-profit organization, Foundation Restoration.  Briefly, I’d like to share our journey with you and ask for your help in accomplishing what I believe that we have been called to do. Relationships and marriages are my passion, and it has been my lifelong desire to positively impact lives in this area.  What I didn’t realize was that I wouldn’t be doing it in quite the way I thought. 

I set out to become a marriage and family therapist after receiving my undergraduate degree.   In July of 2008 I received a Masters in Clinical Psychology with a Specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy and began job-hunting in one of the most challenging economic climates. Countless resumes and interviews filled my days.  As the months passed by, I began to question my “calling” and earnestly sought out God’s plan, while trying to make sense of the many closed doors. One afternoon as I sat down with a pen, paper, and an open heart, I told God that I needed Him to give me some direction. The next thing I knew, I was scribbling down a rough business plan for a non-profit organization called Foundation Restoration. The concept was to provide an accessible resource for individuals and couples that would equip them with the tools necessary to protect and help their relationships thrive. Uhh, not what I had in mind considering I had zero experience in setting up, much less running a non-profit organization, and yet, I had peace that this was God’s mission field for me.

For the past two years while on my journey to establish this vision, passion, and ministry God has laid on my heart, I gave up my plan to pursue His plan. Through this faith walk, my spouse has walked along side of me, providing unconditional support, while I have been tested in my faith, confidence, patience, and strength.  There were times that I wanted to throw in the towel, and yet, somehow I never could, knowing this was bigger than me. God always provided just what we needed, when we needed it, to keep things moving forward.

In May of this year, after a lot of personal sacrifice and prayer, my vision was realized and Foundation Restoration was granted 501(c)(3) non-profit status.  I remember crying and laughing all at the same time when I opened up that letter. Foundation Restoration was official!  Now, we are on a mission:

Foundation Restoration believes that marriage is the foundation of society, and therefore, aspires to have a global impact by promoting a positive message of the true benefits, blessing, and importance of healthy marriages and relationships. Through Christ-centered education, preparation, equipping, and encouraging of people at every stage of life, Foundation Restoration hopes to unlock the full potential of marriages, relationships, families, and ultimately, society as a whole. 

The dream is being realized! Here are some of the things we have accomplished:

  • Created an interactive website with daily articles and resources with readership from all 50 States and 74 countries;
  • Established a Facebook page with over 1550 fans;
  • Create and send out monthly newsletters to a devoted readership;
  • Speaking engagements;
  • Personal interactions with individuals;
  • Provided an internship;
  • Created a non-profit;
  • Appointed a board of directors and established bylaws for Foundation Restoration;
  • Community involvement

Currently we are setting up a new website ( ) that will provide articles, interactive experiences, videos, tips, and other valuable resources for people everywhere to access for free.  This will take the place of but still incorporate the website we currently have,  Little Wifey ( ). We want to do more though. In addition to the website, we want to provide more hands-on services to people. Presently, I have been operating out of my home office in an attempt to keep overhead costs as low as possible; however, to fully achieve those goals and ministry opportunity for Foundation Restoration, we need to secure an office location where we can begin to provide counseling and therapy, host seminars, and conduct workshops.   Our other short-term goal is to provide an in-home tool for people though published literature.

On a daily basis I personally see that families and homes are being threatened and that there is a huge need in this area.  We want to fill that need.

This is where we need your help! We cannot accomplish our mission, goals, or ministry without help from people like you.


 There is much you can do.

Pray daily for this ministry and our families. 

Get informed. Sign up to join our mailing lists by visiting the website at

Consider making a financial gift.  Having volunteered and personally invested funds over the past two years to realize this vision, I promise that Foundation Restoration will be a good steward of what ever gift you can give.  Our current projected annual budget needs for 2010 are at $19,800. At the moment we have met 44% of that goal, and the need for 2011 is even greater.  As a 501(c)(3) status non-profit, all of your donations are 100% tax-deductible. We are asking that you would prayerfully consider giving a financial gift to Foundation Restoration. Any donation, no matter how big or small makes a huge difference and means so much to us that you would believe in our ministry!

Thank you for sewing into this ministry and helping us impact marriages everywhere! We really cannot do it without your help. May you and your loved ones experience the pouring out of God’s blessings in every area of your lives!


Ashley McIlwain, M.A.

Founder & C.E.O., Foundation Restoration