Posts Tagged ‘grow’

Quote of the Day

Tuesday, August 6th, 2013

There is nothing in this life that we can hope will grow and produce that we do not first have to attend to. –Ashley McIlwain

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Quote of the Day

Tuesday, June 25th, 2013

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Make It Grow: TAP

Friday, August 20th, 2010

Marriages are precious. They require our daily efforts to make them grow, just like a garden. We cannot refuse to sow into them and still expect to reap the benefits of a loving spouse and wonderful marriage. You get out of it what you put into it. Just like a neglected garden will wither and die, so will a neglected spouse and marriage.

Going into this weekend, remember TAP:

  • Time – Give your marriage and spouse the time he/she deserves. Set aside date nights at least once a week, and every day take time to just talk to your spouse about life.
  • Attention – There is nothing that deserves your undivided attention like your spouse. Care for, tend to, and love your spouse. Listen for things you can be doing to meet their emotional and physical needs. Take that time you set aside for them and really show them the TLC they need, love, and deserve.
  • Prevention – Set up the safeguards necessary to protect yourself, your spouse, your marriage, and your family. Look for weak spots, temptations, and potentially dangerous areas. Work together on strengthening your marriage and eliminating those problematic pests that are trying to destroy your marriage and your life.

Your marriage is the best gift you have been given, but it needs your time, attention, and prevention if you want to it to stay healthy, thrive, and blossom!

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Grow Together, Not Apart: Choose

Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

Growing together rather than apart through time takes one basic thing…a choice. If you want your marriage to thrive, then you have to make the choice to put in the work and stick to the commitment each and every day. Love and commitment are a choice that require daily, constant effort.

Many people seem to think that love is out of our control and that we fall in and out of love with people without any ability to do much about it. The truth is that we choose to love someone and stay committed to them. If you are talking about a feeling though, well yeah, we aren’t terribly in control of feeling in love at all times. Love isn’t a feeling though. Love is an action. It’s an action and choice we have to make every day of our married lives. Think about it this way, if you choose not to go into work every day then you have a job alright, but not for long. Your marriage will last as long as you show up every day. And the harder you work at it, the better it will be.

We each have a choice in maintaining our marriage through the years. It’s a choice to stay committed to our vows, the covenant of marriage, and to our spouse. It’s a choice to love our spouse when we don’t feel like it. It’s a choice to see the good in our spouse and focus on that. It’s a choice to work hard at being the best spouse possible and making our marriage the best it can be. It’s a choice to educate yourself and learn to continue to grow as an individual and as a couple. It’s a choice to respect and admire your spouse. It’s a choice to never give up.

Marriage and love aren’t some fleeting emotions that are out of our control. They are a precious gift we have been given that we must choose to care for and tend to every day no matter what. It doesn’t matter what it is in this life, if you want something to be the best it can be, then the hard work has to go into it. It goes back to “you reap what you sow.” Your marriage can be thriving if you are willing to make that choice every day to commit to it, love your spouse, affirm your spouse, respect your spouse, grow as a person and couple, do what it takes to make your marriage a priority, and always put your best effort into it.

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