Posts Tagged ‘holidays’

Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

Make A Difference graphicTalkingTuesdayShare your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What is the most challenging part of being with you and your spouse’s (or significant other’s) families for the holidays? How do you handle those challenges?

I’ll get us started …

Fortunately Steve and I both love each other’s families. We definitely hit the jackpot in the family department, but nonetheless, you put a bunch of people under one roof that haven’t been in a while for more than a few days, and things can get a little interesting. Especially once you get married and the dynamics change, it seems like a puzzle you have to piece together – how does everyone’s new roles fit together?

For Steve and I, I think we’ve both just had to learn how to create space for just the two of us amidst family time. We’re used to it being just the two of us, and it’s hard to adjust to no quality time for a week (or more) at a time. Both of us have quality time at the top of our love language list, so I think we tend to get a little irritated (with ourselves, each other, and our family) when we don’t have that time together. So, we’ve started carving out small chunks of time for us to get in that qt. Sometimes that means dinner with some friends, a walk just the two of us around the block, or running a few errands together to get out of the house. We know family time is limited so we want to maximize that, but we still know that those quick pockets of us time help us stay in good spirits, which in turn helps us make the most of our family time.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

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Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

When do you and your spouse/family typically decorate for Christmas?

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Steve and I love Christmas, and we’re not shy about admitting it! For us, the sooner we can decorate, the better. So, typically, we get out all of our indoor decorations and outdoor lights, and put those up the weekend after Halloween. We get a live tree; so unfortunately, we have to

be more patient with getting that up and decorated. Most places don’t start selling them until after Thanksgiving, so we head out as soon as we get home from our Thanksgiving travels to get one. We have a fun tradition of picking out our tree, ordering pizza, and decorating with Christmas music blaring. Of course we cap it off with hot cider (for Steve) and hot cocoa (for me).

Some people think that decorating and getting Christmas festivities underway so quickly undermines Thanksgiving, but we don’t feel that way at all. If anything, it gets us in the perfect, thankful spirit for Thanksgiving. We thoroughly enjoy Thanksgiving and make the most of it, but we have the added bonus of also enjoying Christmas as long as possible too 🙂

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012

 

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

How do you and your spouse incorporate both of your families into the holiday season?

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When Steve and I started dating we discussed how we would handle the holiday season with our families. My parents are still in Pennsylvania, and his family is up the in the Bay Area, so we wouldn’t have the convenience of just hopping from one house to the next for Thanksgiving or Christmas. So, we agreed to rotate those two holidays each year. For example, this year we did Thanksgiving with his parents, and Christmas will be back East with my parents. Next year will be the opposite.

It’s never easy for either of us to be away from our family of origin on these special days, but we wanted to be fair to one another and our families. Plus, we’ve both learned to enjoy the traditions of the other’s family despite them being pretty different from what we’re accustomed too. Marriage is about compromise, adjustments, and a good attitude, so that’s what we’ve tried to have in accommodating both of our families this time of year.

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Thankfully His

Friday, November 19th, 2010

Photo Compliments of Jessica Lorren Photography

Thankfully His

by Ashlee Chu

The holiday season always seems to bring about joy, togetherness and a whole lot of change. For some though, it also brings up feelings of loneliness, emptiness, and bitter memories. So, it only seems fitting with Thanksgiving next week that everyone takes the time to realize just how thankful they can be. Being thankful for not only having things or having loved ones, but thankful for what has been lost and what is yet to be had. Having gratitude for things already in our possession is simple; however, when we feel alone or without, it makes the pressure of a jolly spirit seem unattainable.

With Christmas decorations lining the malls and gift ads all over, I am tempted to dwell on the fact that I have no one special to shop for. Instead, I have found a way to bring the holiday joy into my single life. Rather than focus on what I don’t have, I choose to take it as an opportunity to love and give my attention to those I am fortunate to be surrounded by this season. They have come to be the ones that make my holidays warm and unforgettable.

With your loved ones in mind and remembering that there is a season for everything, know that you are not alone. The verses Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 shares, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens…” Therefore, be comforted this holiday season and ease your heart with those words from the Lord. Wherever you find yourself during this time, remember that it will not last forever and cherish the moments it brings you.

A final thought: be content with who you are and who you have. As for me, I’m thankfully His.

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Personal Note: Love Tip

Friday, January 15th, 2010

One of my favorite things about Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s is that it’s a time that brings people together. It encourages us to take a break from work, the hustle and bustle, and chaos to relax and enjoy the things and people that are really important to us. Most of us travel to see family or have family travel to see us, and we are given the gift of quality time and memories with those loved ones. It’s a time where we are often “forced” to get back to the basics of life, which is all about our loved ones.

The other night Steve and I were watching an ESPN special. We only caught the tail end of it, and I didn’t really who or what it was about. What I do know it was about is a “superstar” that had chosen his career, money, and desires over his family. He walked out on his family to have the “fun and prosperous” life.  There was one guy though that made a comment that struck me. He said, “If you lose your family, at the end of the day you go home alone.” Sometimes we are so focused on gaining “everything” that in the end we lose everything. If you lose your family, you lose everything. A wonderful marriage, happy & healthy children…those are the types of things worth giving your time to and investing in.

I want to encourage you to take some time and reflect on your holiday season together. If you are married, sit down with your spouse, pull out pictures, watch videos…reflect on this past holiday season and all the ones before it. This is a love tip where you can even involve your children. Laugh together, cry together, just  be together sharing a stroll down memory lane together. If you are single, get together with relatives, friends, or by yourself and do the same thing. If you are in a relationship, you know what to do. Just make time for each other to reflect on the real gifts of the holiday seasons you have been blessed with. At the end, maybe you want to set some hope and goals for the upcoming year or years. Just go with it and enjoy it!

Personal Note: Holidays

Monday, January 11th, 2010

Christmas time is always my favorite time of the year. It’s a time where you get to have up pretty decorations, give to others, spend time with family and friends, relax a bit, reflect on the blessings in your life, and remind yourself what’s really important. Steve and I had a wonderful holiday season this year! It started with Thanksgiving in Pennsylvania with my family and moved into Christmas in Northern California with Steve’s family and ended with New Year’s in Pasadena with friends.

As I was looking through all of my pictures and savoring the memories made, I thought I would share some of those memories with you all. It’s kind of a way to let you all see what my life is like. Hopefully you will enjoy seeing an up close and personal glimpse in to my story, my marriage, my family, and my life!

Join me this week for some reminiscing. Feel free to post comments with some of your favorite memories, stories, etc. from this holiday season!