Posts Tagged ‘husbands’

Quote of the Day

Friday, May 27th, 2016

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman’s heart. -Josiah G. Holland

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Love Tip

Wednesday, December 9th, 2015

Surround yourself with people who genuinely love you and tell you what you need to hear, even if it’s not what you want to hear!

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Love Tip

Wednesday, November 4th, 2015

Love Tip: Give your spouse a nice, long hug. Repeat daily.

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Quote of the Day

Monday, July 20th, 2015

Take each other for better or worse but not for granted. -Arlene Dahl

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Quote of the Day

Thursday, July 11th, 2013

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. –Proverbs 18:22

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

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Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What do you think is/are common “mistakes” made by husbands and wives in their marriages?

I’ll get us started …

For me, I think the biggest “mistake” made by both husbands and wives, but especially wives, is the thought that their spouse will make them whole. I’ve heard this so many times. “I just want someone to complete me … to make me whole.” That is a tremendous amount of pressure to put on your spouse, and it’s unrealistic to boot. We are made whole through Jesus Christ alone (Colossians 2:9-10) not through our financial stability, job status, amount of friends, or even our spouse. When we seek to find wholeness through our spouse, we set ourselves up for disappointment and our spouse up for failure. Our spouse is our helpmate not our savior.

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Noteworthy: Lead Me

Thursday, July 26th, 2012

By Ashley McIlwain

Our society these days struggles with the definition of a husband and a wife’s role. Things have changed, and many people are wanting to re-write the book on what marriage should look like. Traditional marriage and roles are seemingly being tossed by the wayside with people claiming that they’ve reinvented the wheel.

While things do change, and I believe that each couple has to figure out what works best for them, I refuse to invalidate or discard God’s design for men and women as husbands and wives. Again, that’s not to say that there are hard and fast rules with no room for adapting or adjusting within each marriage, but with the “out with the old and in with the new” mentality, came a huge decline in marital success and satisfaction. That says something to me.

There is definitely something to be said for the strengths that each gender possesses. It’s not a matter of inequality but rather different yet complimentary roles that come together in perfect tandem. Men have a God-given ability and responsibility to lead, and women have the God-given ability to nurture and support (Ephesians 6:21-23). This balance between a husband and wife is what creates this beautiful portrait of the marital relationship.

Recently I came across a song that reminded me of the importance of men leading in their homes as a husband and father. I do believe many (not all) women have an innate desire to be led by a strong yet sensitive man, and I believe many (not all) men long to have a woman who will respect and support them. Additionally, the father figure in a child’s life is so crucial on so many levels, which further demonstrates the need for strong, courageous, and loving men who are the servant-leaders of their homes and families.

When I heard this song, Lead Me, by Sanctus Real, I knew it was a song I wanted to share with you all. It touches on that longing of wives and children to have their husbands/fathers lead them while demonstrating a husband’s desire to do so. When I hear this song, I know that it resounds in so many men and women out there. All around, it’s a song that I think many of us can relate to, enjoy, and learn from, which is what I hope for you.

Check it out, and let me know what you think. You can get a copy of Lead Me here.

 

Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, June 5th, 2012

 

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What is/was your biggest fear about marriage?

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My biggest fear going into marriage was being an inadequate wife. In everything that I do, I carry extremely high expectations of myself, and by nature, I am a perfectionist. So, when I began planning for my marriage, I was afraid that the task of being the lifelong wife I desired to be was out of reach. In general, I only set goals I know I can achieve, and this was one I was fearful I would fail at simply because I demand nothing less than perfection from myself.

What I had to realize (quickly) was that all I can do is my absolute best each and every day to be the best wife possible. I do fail, falter, and fumble from time to time. Yes, there are times I don’t accomplish everything I want to, and I know sometimes I disappoint or hurt my husband. That’s human nature and part of being in a relationship. Those are all growth opportunities though, and they’re also some of the greatest moments where I feel most loved by my husband. Steve doesn’t love “perfect wife Ashley;” he loves “imperfect but trying my best, Ashley.”

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What do you think the general attitude toward and outlook on marriage is?

I’ll get us started …

From my personal experience, the general attitude toward marriage is a negative one. It seems a lot of people have lost hope and faith in the possibility of having a lifelong marriage. TV shows, movies, and magazines paint this picture that marriage is some sort of death sentence. Wives are constantly portrayed as these controlling nags that their husbands can’t stand, and husbands are apparently a bunch of sports-obsessed meatheads that can’t control themselves when it comes to women they’re not married to. It’s not looking good out there for married people according to the world.

Fortunately for my husband and me, we have found that the general perception and outlook on marriage is a lie. Marriage is what you make of it. If you put the time, effort, love, work, and sacrifice into it that it requires, you will reap the wonderful rewards.

We’ve also made sure to surround ourselves with other couples that love each other and being married. We find it to be necessary, refreshing, and a great way to spur our own marriage on. So, while the world screams at us that marriage is the end-all to happiness, we choose to listen to and project our own counter-cultural message that marriage rocks!

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