Posts Tagged ‘relationship’

Quote of the Day

Monday, May 2nd, 2016

Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. -Mother Teresa

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Quote of the Day

Monday, October 5th, 2015

Amazing marriages happen when two people are wholeheartedly engaged inside their covenant relationship. –Dr. Greg Smalley

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, April 16th, 2013

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Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

Who do you go to when you need relationship advice?

I’ll get us started …

I think this is a super important question to ask for several reasons. One is that your inner circle has a lot of influence, and you want to make sure that it is influencing you in a good way. The other reason is that you need to protect your marriage. Sometimes when we share with family members about issues with our spouse, we tend to forget that they don’t forgive and forget quite as easily as we do, so it’s important to use discretion in the amount that’s shared with them in order to protect those relationships and your marriage.

For me, I do seek the counsel of my family – my mom, dad, and sisters – although I keep things very general and usually frame it in a way that is an “us” issue. I don’t just vent with my family; I choose very specific times that I need solid advice, wisdom, and prayer. My best friend Di is the other person I frequent most often for advice. She is an amazing, trustworthy, Christian friend who has been an incredible sounding board. She values and loves my husband too (our husbands are besties), and she is always pushing me back toward him and our marriage in her advice, which is so important. In every situation though, I am seeking God’s wisdom and guidance through prayer!

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, July 31st, 2012

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If you and your spouse or significant other were an ice cream flavor, what would you be and why?

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For the record, I love ice cream. I’m a borderline addict, and a scoop or two of my frozen favorite was on my mind, which is where this silly question was birthed from. Hopefully you can have a little fun with it.

Now that I’ve gotten that off of my chest, I would have to say Steve and I would most likely be Coldstone’s Birthday Cake Remix. Not only is that one of our favorite ice cream indulgences, but it suits are personalities. We’re a concoction of all sorts of things – fudge/adventurous, sprinkles/fun, cake batter ice cream/passionate, and brownies/serious – or something like that. We just love life together, and we’re always forging new paths, making new memories, and laughing a lot along the way.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Noteworthy: Remind Me

Thursday, January 26th, 2012

It’s tragic, but many marriages don’t end in happiness and longevity. Rather than celebrating a fifty year anniversary, couples find themselves asking, “What happened?” as they tote the kids back and forth between homes. For many, their fairytale ending turned into a nightmare somewhere along the way.

While there are a lot of reasons why marriages fail, one of the biggest culprits is complacency. We do all the work to snag our spouse, and then once they’re ours, we put the relationship into cruise control. We stop doing all of the things we once did to win their affections. But marriage is a continuous journey of winning our spouse’s affections. Every day, every week, every month, every year … we have to keep fighting for their love.

When we start taking our spouse, our marriage, and our relationship for granted, that’s when it starts going downhill. That’s when the love and passion start dying. Just like a fire needs to continually have wood thrown on to keep its flames burning, a marriage needs to continually have romance and effort thrown in there to keep the passion and love burning bright.


That’s why I wanted to highlight the song, Remind Me by Brad Paisley and Carrie Underwood. It captures the essence of that unending process of winning the heart of your spouse. It just may strike a chord with many of you. We need to do what we initially did to win our spouse’s heart in order to keep their heart.Check out the song, and let me know what you think.*To comment on this entry, simply click on the “no comment” link in blue just below the post (if someone has already commented, you will see a number instead of “no” in front of “comment”). Fill out the form that pops up. Your name & email are not required. Once you have entered your comment, click on the “Submit a Comment,” and it will appear once it is approved for posting.

Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, January 10th, 2012

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Do you have any specific goals for your marriage, relationship, and/or life for 2012?

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Something I really want to work on with my marriage for 2012 is being more thoughtful. When you get married, it’s easy to forget to dote on your spouse. You get caught up in the day to day and forget to think of sweet gestures of love and affection for your spouse. While I try to keep my husband, Steve, in mind and do small things for him, I really want to up my game this year. He’s incredibly great at springing spectacular surprises on me, and I want to try and show him I have a few tricks up my sleeve too. Big or small, the point for me is just to communicate that he is still worth my time, effort, and creative energies … and always will be.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Fun For Two

Friday, January 6th, 2012

By Ashley McIlwain

My husband, Steve, and I travel around quite a bit trying to visit with our families that happen to be spread across the United States. While we love visiting our families, it can be challenging to save vacation time, energy, and money to go and do things that we want to do outside of those trips. What we’ve tried to do though is combine the two when possible.

Over Christmas we did just that. It was our turn to visit with Steve’s family up in the bay area, so we managed to squeeze in a few extra little “just the two of us” moments where we could. It made for a very busy Christmas vacation, but we loved every second of it.

First on the list was to head into San Francisco for a quick day trip. It’s tough to beat a big city during Christmas time. The decorations, bustle, and overall cheer makes me giddy with excitement. We enjoyed all of our favorite spots including Union Square, Fisherman’s Wharf, and Pier 39. Of course we had to hop on the trolleys a time or two, which is always a highlight of being in San Fran.

Also on the agenda this trip was checking out the Golden Gate Fortune Cookie Factory. It turned out to be a tiny, hole-in-the-wall, four person operation. Not only were we amazed at this spectacle, but we took advantage of devouring fresh, flat fortune cookies. All around, we loved exploring one of our favorite cities during the most wonderful time of year.

At the end of our visit with Steve’s family, we decided to take a stroll down memory lane by cruising down the 101. We took this gorgeous, California coastal drive for the first time on our engagement trip back in 2007, and we hadn’t done it since. It was so much fun exploring some new and old places along the way.

Our first stop was Santa Cruz. We decided to hit up The Mystery Spot. I’d heard of this place and certainly seen the well-known bumper stickers, so we just had to check it out. It was definitely interesting to experience the gravitational oddities and hypothesize as to what might be the cause. At the end of it all though, we were left with an unsolved mystery … spot.

After being mystified, we checked out the Santa Cruz boardwalk, which is a cool hybrid of beach meets carnival meets arcade. Candy, rollercoasters, and scenic views made for an amusing afternoon together. We followed that up by revisiting the gorgeous, breathtaking spot where Steve proposed to me. It’s tough to even describe the picturesque scene that stirs up so many wonderful memories from the second most incredible day of my life (next to our wedding day, of course). There’s nothing like revisiting somewhere that is so special to you as a couple. I highly recommend everyone doing this from time to time.

Onward we pressed to Monterey. Monterey is such an adorable place; it’s one of my favorite California locations. We started off our day at the Monterey Bay Aquarium, which was a real treat. You can’t go wrong with jellyfish, sea otters, and seahorses. Next we took a stroll along the Monterey Fisherman’s Wharf. It’s the perfect place to go for a hand-in-hand stroll and some of the freshest saltwater taffy you’ll ever gobble up.

Finally, we made a point of heading to Buellton where we gorged on the famous Anderson’s split pea soup. Yum! After a good night’s rest, we launched the final stretch home by first stopping at our favorite breakfast spot, Paula’s Pancake House in Solvang. Their pancakes are divine to say the very least.

All in all, there is nothing quite like a little fun for two with my hubs. Making memories together is priceless. I treasure our adventures together, knowing that these moments are what make life’s journey worthwhile. What a blessing it is to have my husband be my best friend that I enjoy being with and love so very much!

Anyone else have any recent fun excursions, memory-making, or stories they want to share?

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, November 29th, 2011

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What do you think is most important to keep in mind when looking for a spouse?

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The dating process is such a crucial time in someone’s life. Yet, oftentimes we don’t give it a whole lot of thought. It starts with attraction and over time we grow comfortable with a person. That’s when we decide, “Why not get married?” What I learned through my own personal dating journey is that choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with should definitely entail more thought, prayer, and intentionality than that.

I won’t get into all of the nitty gritty concerning my thoughts on dating (I’ll save that for an article J). What I will say is to be thoughtful about your actions and decisions. They truly affect the rest of your life. Careless and nonchalant are two words that should not characterize your actions, thoughts, or approach. Think about what it is you want and need in a spouse. What are your expectations of marriage? Is this person a good fit for you and you for them? Pray, pray, pray for God’s wisdom and direction in all that you do, say, and think.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What are you most thankful for about your spouse or significant other?

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One of the things I am most thankful for about my husband is that he is a man of integrity. He holds himself to the standards that God has put in place for him though His Word. I never wonder what he is up to, what he’s looking at, or who he’s talking to. While I am cautious to uphold our agreed upon boundaries and put safeguards in place, I am never concerned with his judgment because I know that he is a man of integrity that loves and fears the Lord as well as me.

This is something that I value so much and have come to discover its rarity. Sadly, so many men and women have been fooled into thinking that they can get a little loose around the turns and be just fine. That may be true for a season, but tell me how many times can you drive around a sharp curve going 100 miles per hour before you eventually get seriously hurt? Why take that chance? It’s not about what you can get away with; it’s about living the best life possible.

I love that I don’t have to compromise on what I know God’s Word tells me nor do I have to convince my husband of that. His life of integrity and sound judgment are something I absolutely treasure and appreciate with all of my heart.

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

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How did you and your significant other meet?

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