Posts Tagged ‘support’

Love Tip

Wednesday, December 9th, 2015

Surround yourself with people who genuinely love you and tell you what you need to hear, even if it’s not what you want to hear!


Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, November 6th, 2012

Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What is one thing your spouse or significant other is passionate about or enjoys that you can show your support for?

I’ll get us started …

My sweet husband really enjoys music. It’s sort of his “secret” passion that he’s actually quite talented at. At the same time, it’s not something that he has ever really fully pursued. Knowing that it’s something he cares about, I always try to do what I can to encourage that hobby and interest of his. Whether it’s buying him some piece of equipment as a surprise, being a captive audience, or applauding his progress, I really love getting to be a part of that process – cultivating the gifts, talents, and interests in my husband’s heart.

Okay, it’s your turn!

If you have a question you would like to see asked in our weekly Talking Tuesday discussions, we want to know what it is! Just contact us with your idea!

Congratulations to our October Talking Tuesday Giveaway Winner … Kim W.!!! Thanks to everyone who has been participating in our conversations; you’re thoughts are invaluable, and we appreciate and enjoy hearing from! Keep sharing for your chance to WIN our November Giveaway!

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A Special Message

Wednesday, December 21st, 2011

As the end of 2011 approaches, I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt appreciation for the support you have shown us. Foundation Restoration continues to work hard to restore the very foundation of society – marriages.

There’s no doubt in our minds that our ministry is a greatly needed one. Marriages are struggling and people are searching for hope. The devastation of broken homes is undeniable, which is why we have passionately committed ourselves to our mission to help relationships thrive. We believe in the precious gift of marriage and the extraordinary significance and importance it plays in each and every person’s life.

This year alone we have served nearly 36,000 people through our website. We’ve had nearly 700 correspondences with people from all across the globe that have either expressed to us their gratitude and/or a specific need. We know that God is using us to educate, prepare, equip, and encourage people at every stage of life. Here’s what one person shared with us:

“I just wanted to take a minute to tell you thank you. I really enjoy the resources provided by Foundation Restoration. I really appreciate the efforts you go through to provide these resources and for your daily encouragement to each and every person to make it work. I really wanted to tell you thank you 🙂 Keep up the good work!!!  So many people are being blessed because of your efforts.”

As a 501(c)(3) charitable non-profit organization, we rely heavily on generous financial gifts from people like you to keep our ministry up and running. Would you prayerfully consider helping us in our fight to preserve marriages? Your year-end tax deductible gift is very much needed! The suggested donation is $50. Some of you will not be able to give that amount, and some will be able to give more. All we ask is that you please do what you can, and we will continue to do the very best we can!





Ashley McIlwain

Founder and CEO

Foundation Restoration

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Go After It

Thursday, April 7th, 2011

Everyone has dreams and passions. Some people will not stop until those dreams become reality, some will quit at the first sign of defeat, and some will do nothing. Though struggles and obstacles are inevitable, success comes to those whom look at it and keep on moving. These days there is no shortage of competition, overwhelming situations, and thoughts of failure when it comes to going after what you really want in life. A positive attitude and belief in yourself will drive you forward.

What I have yet to understand is: Why do those who have given up or aren’t as far along on their journey as some, put others down? The simple answer would be that they’re jealous. I don’t think that’s the case, however. There are certain people in life that may or may not know when they are making us feel bad for getting one step closer to our dreams. It is frustrating because not everyone wants the same things. So, why can’t others speak blessing & encouragement for anyone that is doing well? Regardless if you like the person, they did what was necessary to get to where they are at in life (good or bad). 

I can’t only hope but pray that we all be encouraging with our words. It’s definitely hard sometimes, but who says someone else is more or less successful than I? Who says that they do or don’t deserve the blessings they’ve received? Who says they didn’t earn their position? Who says? When you have a dream, don’t let anyone stand in your way. Don’t let the enemy, the economy, your circumstances, or even yourself tell you that you can’t or don’t deserve it. You will always have one guaranteed supporter – God.

I hope you are encouraged to find joy in your accomplishments and in the accomplishments of others. Try to challenge yourself to stay positive when your circumstances are negative. When others choose to knock you down, stand strong in knowing that God is always on your side. I am sure you will become more driven and passionate about the things you want in life as you go after them.

“If God is for us, who can be against us?” –Romans 8:31 

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Year-End Gift

Friday, December 17th, 2010

Dear Little Wifey readers,

My husband, Steve, and I want to wish you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas.  As many of you know, the past couple of years have been very exciting – full of many challenges and blessings, which have culminated into the creation and federal approval for our non-profit organization, Foundation Restoration.  Briefly, I’d like to share our journey with you and ask for your help in accomplishing what I believe that we have been called to do. Relationships and marriages are my passion, and it has been my lifelong desire to positively impact lives in this area.  What I didn’t realize was that I wouldn’t be doing it in quite the way I thought. 

I set out to become a marriage and family therapist after receiving my undergraduate degree.   In July of 2008 I received a Masters in Clinical Psychology with a Specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy and began job-hunting in one of the most challenging economic climates. Countless resumes and interviews filled my days.  As the months passed by, I began to question my “calling” and earnestly sought out God’s plan, while trying to make sense of the many closed doors. One afternoon as I sat down with a pen, paper, and an open heart, I told God that I needed Him to give me some direction. The next thing I knew, I was scribbling down a rough business plan for a non-profit organization called Foundation Restoration. The concept was to provide an accessible resource for individuals and couples that would equip them with the tools necessary to protect and help their relationships thrive. Uhh, not what I had in mind considering I had zero experience in setting up, much less running a non-profit organization, and yet, I had peace that this was God’s mission field for me.

For the past two years while on my journey to establish this vision, passion, and ministry God has laid on my heart, I gave up my plan to pursue His plan. Through this faith walk, my spouse has walked along side of me, providing unconditional support, while I have been tested in my faith, confidence, patience, and strength.  There were times that I wanted to throw in the towel, and yet, somehow I never could, knowing this was bigger than me. God always provided just what we needed, when we needed it, to keep things moving forward.

In May of this year, after a lot of personal sacrifice and prayer, my vision was realized and Foundation Restoration was granted 501(c)(3) non-profit status.  I remember crying and laughing all at the same time when I opened up that letter. Foundation Restoration was official!  Now, we are on a mission:

Foundation Restoration believes that marriage is the foundation of society, and therefore, aspires to have a global impact by promoting a positive message of the true benefits, blessing, and importance of healthy marriages and relationships. Through Christ-centered education, preparation, equipping, and encouraging of people at every stage of life, Foundation Restoration hopes to unlock the full potential of marriages, relationships, families, and ultimately, society as a whole. 

The dream is being realized! Here are some of the things we have accomplished:

  • Created an interactive website with daily articles and resources with readership from all 50 States and 74 countries;
  • Established a Facebook page with over 1550 fans;
  • Create and send out monthly newsletters to a devoted readership;
  • Speaking engagements;
  • Personal interactions with individuals;
  • Provided an internship;
  • Created a non-profit;
  • Appointed a board of directors and established bylaws for Foundation Restoration;
  • Community involvement

Currently we are setting up a new website ( ) that will provide articles, interactive experiences, videos, tips, and other valuable resources for people everywhere to access for free.  This will take the place of but still incorporate the website we currently have,  Little Wifey ( ). We want to do more though. In addition to the website, we want to provide more hands-on services to people. Presently, I have been operating out of my home office in an attempt to keep overhead costs as low as possible; however, to fully achieve those goals and ministry opportunity for Foundation Restoration, we need to secure an office location where we can begin to provide counseling and therapy, host seminars, and conduct workshops.   Our other short-term goal is to provide an in-home tool for people though published literature.

On a daily basis I personally see that families and homes are being threatened and that there is a huge need in this area.  We want to fill that need.

This is where we need your help! We cannot accomplish our mission, goals, or ministry without help from people like you.


 There is much you can do.

Pray daily for this ministry and our families. 

Get informed. Sign up to join our mailing lists by visiting the website at

Consider making a financial gift.  Having volunteered and personally invested funds over the past two years to realize this vision, I promise that Foundation Restoration will be a good steward of what ever gift you can give.  Our current projected annual budget needs for 2010 are at $19,800. At the moment we have met 44% of that goal, and the need for 2011 is even greater.  As a 501(c)(3) status non-profit, all of your donations are 100% tax-deductible. We are asking that you would prayerfully consider giving a financial gift to Foundation Restoration. Any donation, no matter how big or small makes a huge difference and means so much to us that you would believe in our ministry!

Thank you for sewing into this ministry and helping us impact marriages everywhere! We really cannot do it without your help. May you and your loved ones experience the pouring out of God’s blessings in every area of your lives!


Ashley McIlwain, M.A.

Founder & C.E.O., Foundation Restoration

We Need YOUR Help, Please!

Wednesday, October 6th, 2010

Dear Fans, Friends, and Family,

WE NEED YOUR HELP!!!! As many of you know, for over two years now, we have been trying to establish a non-profit where we could provide an array of resources to people to help promote healthy, thriving marriages and relationships. During those two years, we have worked completely on faith, pulling from our personal finances and volunteering our time to make that dream a reality. Through that hard work and personal sacrifice, we have provided you all with Little Wifey.

Many of you have written or contacted me telling me of the impact Little Wifey has had on you or someone you know. Excited about the responses we have received, we have worked that much harder to provide a more comprehensive resource and make our dream of a non-profit a reality. Just a few weeks ago, we received the official word from the IRS that our non-profit, Foundation Restoration, received 501(c)(3) status, which means we can offer all donors the benefit of a tax-deduction.

While we are beyond excited about this new step that will open the door for us to provide the extensive and wide-reaching help we believe so many need, we need your help! We cannot accomplish all that we desire for Foundation Restoration without faithful donors who can stand behind us and help provide us with the means to establish this resource.  Simply put, we cannot reach our dream of impacting marriages, families, and ultimately society as a whole if we do not have financial support.

If you can, please commit to a monthly donation – maybe it’s $10 or maybe it’s $100. Sacrificing just 2 cups of coffee a month can free up over $10 that you could donate to Foundation Restoration. Or perhaps you can’t commit to a monthly donation, but you can commit to a one-time donation. Whatever you can do not only goes 100% to the organization, but it means so, so very much to us! We literally cannot do this without YOUR HELP!

Right now we are hosting a giveaway to encourage you all to please join in our cause and begin donating. The giveaway features an autographed copy of The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, along with a cool, Foundation Restoration tote. We are working on adding an extra bonus if we can get at least 25 people to donate through the end of October. You have the option to donate via check (make checks payable to Foundation Restoration and mail to Foundation Restoration, P.O. Box 15401, Irvine, CA 92612)  or PayPal (which accepts all major credit cards).  Click here to see the flyer for the giveaway. You can also click here to visit the website’s donate page where all of our detailed information is. Or, you can click on the Donate button below to donate through PayPal.

Recurring Donations

   One time donation:

Thank you for your prayers, encouragement, and support! We value and appreciate each of you! Also, a big thank you to all of you who have already donated; we are so greatly appreciative and pray for God’s richest blessings on you!

With Blessings and Gratitude,

Ashley McIlwain

Founder & CEO, Foundation Restoration

The next step…

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010

As you may have noticed, there haven’t been any updates or posts recently for Little Wifey. It has been a very busy time for me, but one of excitement and new adventures that I am ready to share with all of you. For those of you who receive the monthly newsletter, you know that we have recently taken Little Wifey to the next level as a non-profit organization.

Nearly two years ago, I felt like God was calling me to a “bigger purpose.” Of course, I kind of brushed it off thinking I was either going crazy or giving myself way too much credit. But God continued to tug at my heart that He had given me this passion for marriages and really wanted to use it in a unique and bigger-than-I-could-imagine way. Feeling silly to tell anyone about these “encounters,” I kept them to myself and pursued a normal career path. Door after door shut, and I began to realize that I couldn’t ignore what was pressing on my heart, so I started to really pray about the situation. I pleaded with God to make sense of all of this and give me a clear vision of what He had in store for me. One day I sat down in Barnes & Noble with a blank pad of paper, my computer, and a posture of openness. Without even really knowing what I was writing, the next thing I knew I had drawn out a rough business plan for a non-profit that was aimed at helping to restore marriages – complete with a name and a list of goals.

Forming a non-profit organization where I would have a platform to help restore marriages and pursue my passion was staring me in the face. Not knowing how to get there or if I would ever get there, I set out on a journey of faith taking one step at a time in that direction. I prayed that my husband would understand this bizarre calling I felt on my life, and sure enough, God answered that prayer too. My husband stood behind me completely and allowed me the space and support to meander through this blind leap of faith. In the times I completely doubted myself and this impossible goal, he would encourage me that he believed in me and this vision and passion God had laid on my heart.

In an effort to take the first step forward, Little Wifey was birthed. Since July of 2009, I have used Little Wifey as a way to make available as many free resources as possible for anyone and everyone wanting to make the most of their relationships. Each day I write articles pertaining to various marital and pre-marital topics, provide an extensive list of book recommendations, suggest dating ideas, hold giveaways for an array of items, offer tailored advice to those in need, among other avenues of encouragement to help relationships thrive. 

With the loving and incredible help from my husband and the support of our family and close friends, we recently felt it was time to take that next step toward the ultimate vision I believe God has given me. So, we sat down and began researching, working, praying, and delving waist high into how to form a 501(c)(3) non-profit. After months and months of hard work and prayer, we were able to finally form a board of directors, file the State & Federal applications, and begin to make this dream a reality.

While the “big items” are checked off the list, there is still a lot of work to be done. From setting up a new website to integrating Little Wifey into the non-profit; from designing a logo to finding a solid & consistent donor base; from setting up a home office to getting all the necessary supplies…the list is long.

 All the while I have also had a wonderful and blessed opportunity fall into my lap to be Managing Editor on a new project being launched by Moody Publishers to help individuals and couples in the pre-marital stages of life. It is called Start Marriage Right and is launching on September 1, 2010 coinciding with the release of Dr. Gary Chapman’s newest book called Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, which inspired the need for this type of resource. This past weekend my husband and I had the opportunity to fly out to Chicago to meet the Moody Publishing team I am working with as well as attend Dr. Chapman’s marriage seminar The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted. There we had the unique opportunity to sit down with Dr. Chapman, and I was so honored to get to talk with him about both the project as well as an array of other topics. Needless to say, I am super excited about Start Marriage Right and how it is going to impact the lives of those preparing for marriage.

Obviously I am ecstatic about all of the doors and opportunities God is opening for me, but my plate has become considerably fuller. Over the next month or so, things are going to be slightly different with Little Wifey. Instead of writing articles daily based around a particular series, I am going to take a break from that to focus on getting the non-profit off the ground as well as getting situated with my new project with Moody Publishers. I will still post entries, but they will be more casual in nature and not necessarily on a daily basis.

My prayer is that while I am in this stage, you all will continue to check out the website, leave your comments, email your thoughts, stories, & questions, and interact on the Little Wifey Facebook page. In addition to that though, I ask that each of you would prayerfully consider partnering with our new non-profit…Foundation Restoration.  Our mission and goal is to restore the foundation of society, marriage, and we would absolutely love and appreciate your help in accomplishing that. Perhaps it is becoming a donor – once or consistently. Maybe you have a talent you are willing to offer (web design, graphic design, musically, etc.). Possibly you have a platform to get the word out there about what we are doing. Perhaps you want me to come speak at your church, university, etc. Maybe you are in the Southern California area and have an office space available for us to use or know of a Marriage & Family Therapist Supervisor that can offer up their services. There are obviously a plethora of avenues for how you can get involved to help further our mission and accomplish this dream. While working toward this moment, I have spent countless hours of my time unpaid in the hopes of helping one person, one relationship, one marriage. This is my passion, but I need your help now. Please just take a moment to prayerfully consider what you might be able to do to contribute.

I want to conclude by saying, “Thank you!” Thank you to all of you who have been so supportive of me and this vision! Thank you to all of my faithful readers; I really appreciate & value you – you are why I do this! Thank you for helping to spread the word; commenting on the blog; commenting & “liking” on Facebook; following, tweeting, & retweeting on Twitter; emailing me your stories, feedback, & comments; and for donating financially to keep things up and running! I cannot thank you enough; it really means more to me than I can express!


Ashley McIlwain

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Getting to Know Little Wifey: Support

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

Many of you either know me personally or have read the “About Me” section and have an idea of where I am coming from. Little Wifey was a dream project for me. I am passionate about marriages, relationships, and families, and I wanted to positively impact this area in a current climate of unfortunate decay. So, I set out on this adventure to start a website, offering my expertise up for free to anyone who was willing to check out what I was saying. Since the start of it, I have put in so much time, energy, and effort to make it the best it can be and to constantly expand it to more. It’s my passion and my heart, which is why I devote so much of who I am into it.

The truth is though, I work full time on this website/resource without being paid a dime. It’s been a journey of faith, but it’s what I believe I am called to do, and I really believe in what I am doing. Right now my husband and I pay for everything out of our own pockets to keep this up and running, but that’s definitely challenging to do. Obviously times are tough economically, and we currently can’t offer a tax write-off to donors, but there are ways that you can help out financially beyond just donating.

  • Donations– Obviously the biggest way you can help us out financially is to donate any amount of money to Little Wifey. Like I said, we pay out of pocket for all of the operational costs, and I volunteer all of my time right now to do what I am doing. Any amount of money though can help, and it is all used to keep Little Wifey up and running and to provide more for our readers. We did receive a generous donation from an individual the other day, and immediately I used it to provide a $50 gift card for our March Madness contest winner and $25 gift cards to the 3 runners up. If you would like to donate and be a part of thriving, you can do so in 1 of 2 ways. The first is through the website via Paypal – And secondly is via checks, which can be made out to “Ashley McIlwain” and mailed to P.O. Box 15401, Irvine, CA 92612.
  • Amazon– A lot of you make purchases through Amazon. They are a pretty cheap place to get books, music, movies, video games, and pretty much anything else that you might want or need. Well, Little Wifey is an Amazon Associate, which basically means that if you click through any of the Amazon links on the Little Wifey site, make your purchases as planned (whether they are the books, songs, etc. I am suggesting or not), Amazon will give us a cut of their profit without it costing you a dime. This is a great and easy way to help us out without spending an extra dime. So please, if you are making any purchase at all from Amazon, click through from the Little Wifey site first!
  • Google– If you want to help Little Wifey without it costing you a dime, literally, there are a couple of things you can do. One is that you can conduct your Google searches from the Little Wifey website. Just type in what you are looking for as usual in the little Google toolbar (just beneath where you sign up for the LW newsletter, and to the left of the “Little Wifey Book Picks”), we get a bit of money depending on which links and sites you end up visiting. The other way is to click on any of the advertisements you see in the bottom right hand corner of the page. These are both totally free and easy ways to help out Little Wifey.
  • Other– We are always open to other ideas of how we might be able to find ways to support what we are doing with Little Wifey. Know of a fundraiser, supporters, or other options for helping out? Let us know! Shoot me an email – we really appreciate any willingness to help out!

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