Talking Tuesday

TalkingTuesdayShare your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:

What are some of the ways you plan on making your marriage or relationship better this year?

I’ll get us started …

You can never care too much about your marriage, and you certainly can never do too much to make it better. That’s both challenging and exciting! For me this year, I want to plan small outings and date nights more for my husband and I. Typically he takes point on all of that, and while I love and appreciate that he does, I too want to surprise him with thoughtful, fun things to do together. Also, I want to be more intentional about doing acts of service for him. Maybe it’s a shoulder massage or taking care of the trash so he doesn’t have to. The possibilities are endless, so I just need to think about it and choose some to do for him on a regular basis. There are times I know that my marriage slips to the back burner, and I want to make sure I’m constantly bringing it to the front burner so that I’m doing my part to make it the best it can be!

Okay, it’s your turn!

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Author :

Ashley McIlwain, MA, LMFTA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate who received her Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Palm Beach Atlantic University and her Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology with a Specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy from Azusa Pacific University. Ashley is the Founder and CEO of Foundation Restoration, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization which offers a wide range of resources committed to helping relationships thrive. Believing that marriage is the foundation of society, she passionately utilizes her non-profit, therapy, speaking engagements, and writing to prepare, nurture, salvage, and encourage healthy, strong marriages from a biblical perspective. Her past experience includes partnering with Moody Publishers and Dr. Gary Chapman as Managing Editor to launch and develop a website focused on premarital preparation. Her areas of focus include premarital, marital, and individual therapy working through life transitions, relational issues, personal growth, boundaries, restoration, depression, and anxiety. She is certified as a Prepare & Enrich Facilitator, SYMBIS Facilitator, and is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors as well as the AACC Marriage & Family Division and AAMFT. Ashley loves connecting with, helping, and encouraging people professionally and personally. Her heart is to support those hurting and help them to feel understood, cared for, and hopeful on their path to healing.

8 Responses to “Talking Tuesday”

  • Aileen Says:

    I like trying to be proactive but like you said sometimes it’s hard to be and life gets in the way. Doing little things lately has been so much easier now that he is home 🙂

    • Ashley McIlwain Says:

      Aileen, it’s so nice to hear from you! 🙂 It can definitely be tough; life somehow always keeps us busy and bogged down. I’m so glad you have found it easier to do little things now that he is home! Thanks so much for sharing!

  • Connie Says:

    My husband loves the Lil massages and I am going to work harder in that area.

  • Sheri Says:

    I think it’s awesome that you’re being so proactive and upfront about areas in your marriage where you need to “work.” This was a big one for me, I expected things but didn’t always put forth the effort to do them. I realized that but now it’s too late. One of the things that will be done when and if I ever enter into another relationship! (Love your blog by the way, I don’t always respond because I’m not married anymore as of tomorrow, but I enjoy reading your post and the comments of your readers!)

    • Ashley McIlwain Says:

      Sheri, it’s so great to hear from you; I’m thankful you decided to comment this time 🙂 I’m so sorry to hear of your divorce, but I pray for God’s redemption, wisdom, healing, and grace as you move forward into this next chapter of your life. No doubt there is a lot that many people can learn from you and your experience. Thanks for taking the time to share and for the encouragement! I really appreciate it!

  • Ida Says:

    I, just as you said, am going to make sure that we have more date nights and time for ourselves! It’s too easy to get sidetracked with our children that we tend to neglect us! I read on a FB marriage site-they suggest that each take turns planning what the date night would be-which I think will become very interesting & fun 🙂

    • Ashley McIlwain Says:

      Ida, it sure is easy to get sidetracked from taking time for date nights and our marriage in general, especially when there are children in the picture. I’m glad that you are making the effort to carve out time for you and your husband. And yes, taking turns planning date night can be fun and exciting! Thanks for sharing!