Talking Tuesday
Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:
What is the biggest obstacle you face in being able to date your spouse?
I’ll get us started …
My answer is probably one that many of you share … time. It’s true that there’s just never enough time to fit everything in … including date nights. But, knowing that to be true in addition to knowing how crucial dating my hubs is, I have learned that you simply have to make time.
Sometimes it’s as simple as a walk in the park together hand-in-hand while other times it’s a more elaborate night including dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by a Broadway performance. Whatever it is, I love spending time with my hubby. He is my favorite person, and going on dates reminds me of why I chose him to spend the rest of my life with. As we make memories and have a blast, I savor those precious moments of maintaining the love, friendship, and relationship that we committed our lives to.
Okay, it’s your turn!
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February 2nd, 2012 at 2:58 pm
Hmm …… Date nights ?? Been having them for 47 years !! They are a major factor in having fun as you gracefully grow older together
February 6th, 2012 at 8:23 pm
Joan, I love that for 47 years you have been dating your hubby! You must have so many precious memories to cherish and remember together. What an amazing accomplishment and example! Thanks for sharing … keep it up!
January 31st, 2012 at 8:13 pm
I would say money. We just don’t have any extra to pay a babysitter or afford to go out to dinner or a movie.
February 6th, 2012 at 8:22 pm
Erika, as I mentioned in Chelsea’s comment, finances can definitely create some additional difficulty to making time for date nights. One idea I heard awhile ago that I’ve recommended many times and have gotten great feedback on is to create a network of other couples who are parents. If you can get 2 other couples even, rotate babysitting each other’s kids free of charge while the others go out on a date night. Come up with a rotation schedule that works for all of you. You have additional kids once during the rotation, but the remaining nights are date nights without worrying about a sitter. Just an idea
Thanks for sharing!
January 31st, 2012 at 6:51 pm
Hubby and I are newly weds as I commented on my post last week. Newlyweds=no money, as sad as it is. We work a lot and we work long hours so we only get to see one another two hours a day and rarely have a day off together. Our short time spent together is eating dinner at the table, telling eachother about our day and
Watching something on Netflix before bedtime. We don’t have a lot of time or money for anything else but I think its humbled us and made us closer
because our time together is precious.
February 6th, 2012 at 8:19 pm
Chelsea, limited finances can definitely present some added challenges to fitting in date nights. While difficult to make time and do budget-friendly activities, like you said, it also makes you treasure the time you do get together. Keep working hard at making the most of the precious time you do get together; you’ll never regret it! Thanks for joining the conversation!
January 31st, 2012 at 3:19 pm
Poor time management seems to be my biggest obstacle. Work, motherhood, cleaning the house, charities, group meetings, exercise…where do I squeeze in more? It’s easy to take advantage of my husband’s patience and willingness to let me make other “pressing matters” a priority, but the fact is, if I could manage my schedule and time better, I would do a better job at dating him.
February 6th, 2012 at 8:17 pm
Ricinda, with all of those demanding and time-consuming things on your plate, it would be tough for anyone to manage their time super well. It’s a challenge to fit it all in. It’s definitely easy though to let the most understanding and patient “priority” keep getting neglected, and unfortunately, a lot of times that priority is our spouse. They love us so they adjust and adapt, but that’s the person who is most deserving of your love, time, and attention. Thanks for sharing!
January 31st, 2012 at 8:11 am
What incredible timing…last night was our “date” night…
Scott and I try to have at least 2 nights a week that are dedicated to US! We usually stay in. Sometimes we will go out..but we both enjoy cooking so we usually find a fun new recipe to try or pick one of our all time fovorites and spend time in the kitchen then we sit down to our meal and just catch up. Time is really the hardest part for us…our schedules are not exactly the same…so many nights I am sleeping when Scott gets home from work. So when our date night rolls around we are both so ready and so “present in the moment.” When we know its our date night we are both so excited and ready…we cannot wait for the evening to arrive. It really is a way for us to reconnect with one another…remind each other of our love and devotion to one another : )
Bottom line,no matter how busy we are, we have agreed that we will always make time for each other–just us. Even if its just 20 minutes because our schedules are overly hectic throughout the week…
Scott is my best friend and soon to be husband and I could not feel more loved and in love than I do at this moment in our journey. For us…it’s the little moments and our “at home date nights” that keep that fire burning!
February 6th, 2012 at 8:15 pm
Meredith, thanks for kicking off the conversation this week! It’s awesome that you and Scott are already getting in the habit of making time for consistent date nights. It’s so important, and setting the precedent early on in your relationship helps make it part of your routine in later stages. It’s so encouraging to hear how much the two of you enjoy your date nights and time together … never lose that. Keep up the great work!