Talking Tuesday
Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:
What is something your spouse or significant other has done for you recently that really made you feel loved?
I’ll get us started …
Over the past couple of weeks, my husband has been giving me foot massages almost every night! I don’t know what sparked this, but it has been so incredible. Foot massages at the end of my long days are so relaxing and medicinal, but more than anything, I feel so incredibly loved by my husband when he takes the time to care for me like that. It’s been such a blessing and makes me want to ensure I’m reciprocating with something that is equally as wonderful for him.
Okay, it’s your turn!
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April 24th, 2012 at 3:55 pm
My comment would be the fact that he’s willing to listen to me at times when I know he’s more than dogged tired … he dairy farms on 200 acres … and is up every am at 4:30 and not in bed much before 11 pm … so not much sleep … but yet he’s willing to sit and listen to me when I need it and help me make decisions or figure out what is bothering me and what to do about it or if we are having a problem with one of our six children (yes I said six) … he’s always been there for me through alot … we have been married 21 years this past November … and I think I”m more in love with him now than when we first got married … you see I married him after coming out of a nasty divorce to an abusive alcoholic with one daughter that was 2 at the time and it had only been 2 years since my brother was brutally murdered … so I brought alot of baggage with me … and that’s a major understatment … I know I asked him one time if he knew all that he knows about me now would have have still married me and he said without missing a beat “of course, no one is perfect”
What a man!!!
April 25th, 2012 at 3:39 pm
Sandra, a listening ear by your husband can be one of the most precious gifts. Oftentimes that’s all we need to feel better, and it’s wonderful to hear that your husband offers you that despite his own feelings or comforts. It sounds like you and your husband have been through quite a lot, which probably makes you all the more thankful for what you have been blessed with. What an incredible story and testimony you must have. Thanks for sharing!
April 24th, 2012 at 2:21 pm
My husband always calls me when he is at a store or restaurant to see what he can bring home for me. He certainly knows the way to my heart !
April 25th, 2012 at 3:37 pm
Joanie, thanks for joining the conversation! It’s funny how something as simple as calling and being so thoughtful and considerate, as your husband is to you, can have such a significant impact. Sounds like he definitely knows his wife well
April 24th, 2012 at 12:12 pm
I am currently in college. We have many plans for this next weekend. My husband told me this morning to go to school when I got home from work and to not worry about the house or cooking dinner. He said he was taking care of everything, because he wants me to enjoy our weekend plans with out worry about school.
April 25th, 2012 at 3:36 pm
Vicki, wow, that’s so thoughtful of your husband! I know there are nights where I just feel like I can’t take another thing on my plate, and when my husband helps out, it keeps me from losing it (haha). What a kind thing for your husband to do for you! Thanks for joining the conversation!
April 24th, 2012 at 10:17 am
Whenever I am feeling particularly down, he will surprise me by sending me flowers! He knows they brithen my day so much and make me feel better. He usually will include some note with and inside joke or message
Even though my Hubby is deployed, he still shows he cares!
April 25th, 2012 at 3:35 pm
Melisse, that is amazing that your husband is deployed and still makes such a significant effort! That has to put a smile on your face and help with that distance! That should definitely speak to those people out there who say they are too busy or it’s too difficult to do thoughtful things for their spouse … your husband proves that they just need to make the effort. Thanks for sharing!
April 24th, 2012 at 8:34 am
My hubby came home after being gone for the whole weekend and took our son outside to play so I could be in the house and relax a little. Then he went in to the bedroom and watched a movie with him so I could finish editing some of my photography stuff. It was much needed and well liked.
April 25th, 2012 at 3:33 pm
Brandy, thanks for hopping in to the conversation! That’s so thoughtful of your husband to come home, spend time with your son, and give you an opportunity to relax a bit. We all need those moments, especially you moms, so that is wonderful that your husband gave you that opportunity while getting that quality time with your son. That’s a win, win!
April 24th, 2012 at 7:19 am
I’ve been down with an injury for a week and my husband has taken care of all arrangements…massages, childcare, dinner, and every other little detail. Lots of love here.
April 25th, 2012 at 3:31 pm
Ricinda, I’m so sorry you’ve been down with an injury for a week! May God’s healing hand rest upon you! What a blessing to have your husband step up to help out as much as possible. How desperately we need that from time to time, so I’m thrilled he’s been providing that for you. Thanks for sharing … and get better soon!
April 24th, 2012 at 7:12 am
Actually it was just last night. After a discussion about something that was upsetting me. My husband set out to work on it. As soon as we got which was late I took a shower and when I got out he had cleaned the kitchen and took out the trash. Then wrote me a sweet note on our dry erase board. I appreciated that so much, that act of service made me feel so loved!!
April 25th, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Lauren, thanks for joining the conversation! It’s amazing when we are able to communicate in an effective and healthy way with our spouse. When we do so, it usually does evoke change, which makes the marriage grow and develop. It sounds like your husband got right to work in a sweet way. It’s so nice to feel loved and to also make our spouse feel loved, huh?!
April 24th, 2012 at 7:02 am
Last week my husband picked me up from the airport with roses in hand. It was so sweet to see him standing there waiting for me as I came down the stairs! Very special surprise!
April 25th, 2012 at 3:28 pm
Loryn, that is so sweet! Leaving your spouse is never fun, but that reunion (especially when it includes beautiful flowers) is such a special reminder of the companionship, love, and joy your spouse brings. Thanks for sharing!
April 24th, 2012 at 5:51 am
Ashley,
I applaud your Hub for the effort to massage your feet. After a long day at work, that’s not something that’s normally on a man’s radar. We just are not really wired that way. It takes a conscious effort, and quite frankly, we most often “just don’t think much about it”. I know for an absolute fact that massaging my wife’s feet is a medicine and a benefit of huge proportions, not only for her, but me. She feels loved and can sleep so much better when I massage her feet. The funny thing is, after about 10 minutes of massaging her feet, I start to nod off,…truly is therapeutic. A man just needs to “buck up”, get off the lazy “duff” and do it. The returns to the relationship are worth it!
April 24th, 2012 at 10:59 am
awesome post Rick!!!
April 25th, 2012 at 3:26 pm
Rick, to be honest, a foot massage wasn’t on my radar either until my hubs started giving them to me. Now they are definitely on my radar
It is truly medicine, so I’m sure it’s evident in your wife when you massage her feet. It’s a relatively simple act of love, but it does so much for the recipient … I can attest! I love how you said, “A man just needs to ‘buck up,’ get off the lazy ‘duff,’ and do it.” I think that’s true for husbands and wives alike when it comes to expressing love for our spouse. Great stuff; thanks for kicking off the conversation!