Talking Tuesday
Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:
How did you know your spouse was “the one?”
I’ll get us started …
People have always said, “You’ll just know,” when you’ve found “the one.” I never really ascribed to that saying, but with Steve, that’s exactly what happened. I believe that as a Christian, when we seek God’s choice for our spouse through prayer and submission, He does give us a peace and certainty about the person He desires for us to do life with.
Beyond the extreme God-given peace I felt deep within my spirit about Steve, there were other things that further affirmed that choice. My family and friends all loved Steve and couldn’t speak highly enough about him. They also pointed out that he seemed to bring out the best in me and vice versa, which I believe to be a HUGE indicator of a wise spouse selection. Additionally, he met my list of “must-haves,” and then some! I could picture a lifelong journey with him. And I knew that I could trust him – his judgment, integrity, guidance, and decisions – because he was (is) a God-loving and God-fearing man.
Steve was the guy I prayed for and dreamt of, and I just had complete peace, confidence, and excitement that he was the one I wanted to spend my life with through thick and thin.
Okay, it’s your turn!
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May 19th, 2012 at 7:49 am
I never met anyone who took the time to listen, help and genuinely care about me other than my family. My husband helped me when I was alone in flight school and feeling completely lost. With nothing to really gain, he took many hours, days and months to help me jump the hurdles and cheer me on when I needed some encouragement. To this day he is the only one who can calm me with just one word.
May 19th, 2012 at 2:37 pm
Erin, thanks for joining the conversation! There’s definitely something so special about someone who takes the time and makes the effort to walk through challenging times with you; I can see how that would have made such an impression on you. What a blessing to have your husband be your cheerleader in life
That’s how it should be for both spouses.
May 17th, 2012 at 5:59 am
Well, it’s Thursday and I just found time to comment on “Talking Tuesday”. Having accepted Christ as my personal savior at age 13, that started a long journey. I was what an older friend called “a late-bloomer” and never really discovered girls in a dating perspective, until I was a high school senior. Over the years following, I learned a lot about relationships the “hard way” so to speak, but never compromised what I felt God put in my heart. I was taken advantage of in the few serious relationships I had, purely because of my ignorance, always placing a dating partner on a pedestal. That was wrong-thinking. God belongs on the pedestal of our hearts and His guidance leads us through relationships with much prayer. Did I mention that selfish, flesh motives quite often get in the way? Well they do, big time. But somehow, God brought me to a point where I was just tired of the whole dating scene and gave it to Him. It was then that I met my wife in my church, singing as a guest on a Sunday. I was taking up the offering, when she pretended to drop the collection plate and smiled at me. I knew that she was “different”. I felt something leap within me as I heard her sing (such a beautiful voice) and (in retrospect) think the Holy Spirit was confirming in me that she was “the one”.
We are so different in so many ways, but in the things that really matter, we walk in agreement, as “one”. She is a Godly light in my life and He has brought us through a lot; we will be married 36 years on June 5,…some days it seems like our eyes first met only yesterday! We are blessed.
May 19th, 2012 at 12:55 pm
Rick, we welcome discussion any day, any time to our Talking Tuesdays! Tuesday is just the kickoff
Once again, you have blown me away with your in depth, heartfelt response to this question. I think many of us can relate to that feeling of being taken advantage of in a relationship, and that’s not a fun feeling. It’s hurtful and leaves us tainted and guarded all too often. Like you said though, that brokenness often comes from a priority problem — putting out significant other before God in our hearts. The dating process can be such a challenging and frustrating one, but how right you are that it needs to be submitted to God. When we do, God usually opens up a door and our hearts in an unexpected way like in your situation. How inspiring that you felt the Holy Spirit’s confirmation and have been unified in your love for God. That’s so central to being able to work through any other differences or difficulties you may face in a marriage. Congratulations on almost 36 years of marriage … so exciting and encouraging!!! God bless you both!
May 16th, 2012 at 10:05 am
When Ruth and I began dating we were full of energy, positive thinking, and never looked at the hours when we were together.
As life continued in the months thereafter, we continued to share in the positives, and we began our struggle with the not-so-positives. Nevertheless, we worked together to bring ourselves back to the high energy, positive thinking, and never looking at the hours when we were together.
This November we will be Blessed in celebrating 14 years of marriage, and our continuing journey together.
May 17th, 2012 at 9:14 am
Reggie, I like that you and your wife, Ruth, worked your way back to what you wanted your marriage to be! Many couples think that once some of those negatives and/or challenges creep in, the relationship isn’t worth it when in fact, they just have to work harder at it. Is truly is a journey … a blessed and fun one! Thanks for sharing!
May 16th, 2012 at 4:08 am
I knew my husband was the one because he was different fron any guy that I had meet. He was employed , he had his own place and he was brave to stand up to things he felt were wrong. I grew up in a home where my father was present physically but not emotionally. He left when I was 12. It was really difficult in my home being raised by a single mom. In the end I am so thankful to the Lord because at the time I meet my husband he was seeking the Lord. We eventually both came to faith in the Lord and have been married for 25 years! So glad that God redeems His people!
May 16th, 2012 at 1:34 pm
Nereida, thanks for joining the conversation! God definitely uses our difficulties and challenges to shape and mold us as well as position us for His perfect plans. It seems God did just that with your journey and marriage.
May 15th, 2012 at 3:40 pm
I met my husband when we were in highschool. He was dating my friend, and she introduced him to me. We were friends all through school. After school we both went our own ways. Years later he called me to meet for coffee. We began dating.My husband told me he had loved me since the first time he met me. It was a very long journey for me to know that he was the one God chose for me. We both became christians while we were dating. It was my seeing how God worked in him, how the Holy Sprit led him. That is when I knew this was God’s plan. We will have been together 21 years on May 31st and we are closer now than ever in our marriage.
May 16th, 2012 at 12:33 pm
Vicki, it’s amazing how God weaves and works in our lives. It’s so wonderful that together you discovered a relationship with Christ! Keep up the great work, and thanks for sharing!
May 15th, 2012 at 12:47 pm
We met at camp when we were 7 and then saw each other again when we were 16. That summer he got up and gave a testimony. He said, “I want to live my life for the Lord and I won’t let anyone get in the way of that.” It was at that moment I knew I had met the love of my life. Here we are 6 years later and 13 days away from getting married.
Thank you God!
May 16th, 2012 at 12:32 pm
Meghan, wow, what a history the 2 of you have! It’s amazing how the Lord drew you to one another, and may He keep you together as you keep Him at the center of your upcoming marriage! Congratulations on your wedding … just days away!!! Thanks for sharing!
May 15th, 2012 at 9:54 am
Yes, I agree the God fearing man and a man that loves The Lord, put my husband on the top of my need and must have list! I can see even 30 years later…it was more important then I ever realized.
The Bible knows BEST!
May 16th, 2012 at 12:30 pm
Linda, you are so right; the Bible definitely knows best! We think it’s outdated, but it’s just tried and true! Congrats on 30 years of marriage, and may God bless your faithfulness and commitment! Thanks for kicking off our conversation!