Talking Tuesday
Share your thoughts, feelings, and stories as well as respond to others regarding these questions:
In thinking about the 4th of July, what really brings sparks to your relationship? Why?
I’ll get us started …
The major thing that really helps sparks to fly in Steve’s and my relationship is quality time together. When we take time to do things together, sit and talk, make memories, or snuggle up under a blanket holding one another, it just helps cultivate that friendship and intimacy that we need in our marriage. It deepens the love we have for each other, which ultimately keeps that flame burning bright.
Another notable “spark-starter” for us is romance. We all want to be pursued, even and especially after we get married, by our spouse. So, candles, dinner dates, and thoughtful gestures are wonderful ways to make sparks fly. Get creative, and enjoy the freedom of your marriage! Romancing your spouse is crucial, special, and just fun!
Okay, it’s your turn!
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July 4th, 2012 at 5:44 pm
What we really enjoy is doing some kind of learning together. We will do personal development series or 90 day challenge to complete a goal. We discuss what we are learning and how we are dealing with the situations around us. It really brings out great things within us. Not only do we get to improve ourselves, but we get to support and encourage each other!
July 6th, 2012 at 4:05 pm
Cassie, thanks for joining the conversation! That’s wonderful that you and your spouse spur one another to become better people in general. I find that encouraging and supporting your spouse through a journey like that really does cultivate a unique intimacy. Great idea; thanks for sharing!
July 3rd, 2012 at 12:56 pm
Observing the qualities in my husband…this can happen when I see his kid-like giddiness at something or when he treats our daughter like a treasured princess. Pride overtakes me and I am taken back in time to those earlier moments when we dated.
July 3rd, 2012 at 5:58 pm
Fiona, I really think you touched on something important … reminding ourselves of those earlier, giddier moments of the relationship where we glowed with love and admiration. How wonderful that you take time to observe and notice those things in your husband. I can only imagine the pride, joy, and emotion that wells up within you watching your husband love your daughter in such a special way. Thanks so much for sharing!
July 3rd, 2012 at 10:25 am
For me it’s knowing that my husband recognizes admirable qualities in me and compliments me on them and cultivates them. I love to know that he loves to spend time with me.
July 3rd, 2012 at 5:57 pm
Erin, thanks for joining the conversation! I know what you mean; there’s something triggered inside me when Steve expresses his admiration, enjoyment, and/or gratitude for me and specific qualities I possess. How nice to know that your husband actually enjoys being with you!
July 3rd, 2012 at 7:59 am
what sparks our relationship is almost the same as what you have said Ashley. Time. It is difficult to get quality time together. With both of us working, and our activties plus my going to school and then we watch our grandson six days a week. We cherish the time we get alone, first of all and then we make sure that we have some quality time. The sparks will be there when we are doing something we both enjoy. We took the time to plan a night away. A local coffee house for a band we both love. . then we stopped for a bite to eat. I think maybe it is a combination of both of your answers. romancing and quality time. I love it even when he does something small and unexpected. I makes me feel good to know even in his busy day he is thinking about me and he has said the same thing to me.
July 3rd, 2012 at 5:55 pm
Vicki, it’s definitely challenging to find time. That’s something my husband and I struggle with because we are involved with so many things, but we know that it’s up to us make that time for our relationships. And like you said, I think romance and quality time go hand in hand. It’s just a wonderful feeling to be pursued by your spouse … like each day he/she chooses you all over again. Great stuff! Thanks for sharing!
July 3rd, 2012 at 5:45 am
My husband and I also find time alone together, doing anything at all, keeps our bond strong. This year we decided to take our time together a step further start a new tradition. We are commited to an annual vacation without children. This may only be a 3-4 day trip but we return more in love than ever and energized for our family. The maintenance in between trips is of vital importance but this trip allows us to reconnect without the regular stresses of home and work.
July 3rd, 2012 at 5:53 pm
Jessica, thanks for kicking off this week’s conversation! I love that you and your husband are committing to setting aside vacation for just the 2 of you! That’s something I wish more couples did because it really is an amazing way to connect in an essential way as husband and wife! Love it!