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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, March 4th, 2014

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What kind of date nights do you and your spouse or significant other enjoy? Adventurous? Relaxing? Outdoors? Movies? Let’s all swap ideas for some great date night ideas!

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Steve and I like to switch things up. We are always trying something new, exploring, and making fun memories together. Often times we like to go out and do something. That typically entails trying out a new restaurant – I like holes in the wall, and he enjoys foodie places – so we appreciate a whole spectrum of places, flavors, and atmospheres. We like to go to concerts, so we’ll check out a local band at a small joint, or we’ll hit up a headliner at a big arena. Our music tastes are all over the place so we’ve been to everything from intimate praise and worship concerts to rock to country to pop to folk. Sometimes we opt for a movie theater date so we can snuggle up and split some popcorn. One of my favorite things to do, which isn’t really a date night but a great opportunity for quality time nonetheless, is to get up on a Saturday morning grab some brunch and coffee, and then go for a nice long walk at one of our gorgeous local parks.

Alright, I think I’ve listed enough of our dating exploits. What are some of yours? I’ve very excited to get some new ideas!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

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Valentine’s Day is over, but how do you show and express your love to your spouse or significant other on a regular basis? Is this difficult or easy for you?

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One of the biggest ways that I show and express my love to my hubs, Steve, is through notes. I like to leave him cards and post-it notes that let him know he is loved and appreciated. I also try to do little things for him like taking care of a household task he normally does, picking him up something he needs from the store, getting him something small on my errands to let him know I was thinking of him, and telling him how much I love him. In some ways it’s very natural and easy for me to do this because I can’t tell him enough what a wonderful husband he is and how thankful I am for him. At the same time, I do feel like going outside my usual gestures is challenging at times because of how busy life is. It’s hard to carve out the time to think outside the box, but I do want to be better about that. There’s always room for improvement!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

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Are you looking forward to Valentine’s Day? Why or why not?

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Yes, I am looking forward to Valentine’s Day for many reasons.  Granted, I feel like this is a holiday that faces lots of criticism from folks who feel it’s contrived, or a “Hallmark” holiday that merely forces people to spend money on a made-up, overly pink day. Nonetheless, I love it! I love any day that encourages thoughtfulness and intentionality in relationships! So, while it may be a slightly unnecessary and contrived holiday; it’s a great excuse to take time to show your spouse that you love him/her. To be extra romantic and expressive. That’s just my opinion. What do you guys think?

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

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What are some of your other favorite marriage/relationship resources, and why?

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I’m actually not going to respond to this one because I really want to hear what your thoughts are on this. Whether it is a book, video, website, organization, magazine, podcast, or anything in between, I’d love to hear how you all find encouragement, support, and inspiration for your marriage or relationship!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

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What are some of the ways you plan on making your marriage or relationship better this year?

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You can never care too much about your marriage, and you certainly can never do too much to make it better. That’s both challenging and exciting! For me this year, I want to plan small outings and date nights more for my husband and I. Typically he takes point on all of that, and while I love and appreciate that he does, I too want to surprise him with thoughtful, fun things to do together. Also, I want to be more intentional about doing acts of service for him. Maybe it’s a shoulder massage or taking care of the trash so he doesn’t have to. The possibilities are endless, so I just need to think about it and choose some to do for him on a regular basis. There are times I know that my marriage slips to the back burner, and I want to make sure I’m constantly bringing it to the front burner so that I’m doing my part to make it the best it can be!

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

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Do you and your spouse, family, and/or friends have any fun summer plans on the horizon?

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Steve and I are heading to Virginia this month for my sister’s college graduation, and we are super excited about it! It was a long-term goal for my sister to complete her degree, and she did it with flying colors. We are so proud of her, and it’s going to be absolutely incredible to have the whole family together to celebrate her accomplishment!

Other than that, we have a bit more of a subdued travel schedule this summer than normal, but I am sure we will do plenty of fun, local things to make memories. We rarely sit still for very long, so I doubt this summer will be an exception to that rule. Summer is always a fun time, so I’m looking forward to what we can get into J

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Noteworthy: I Won’t Give Up

Thursday, April 18th, 2013

Noteworthy

By Ashley McIlwain

I may not be considered among the old and wise yet, but I have experienced quite a bit in my rather brief life up until this point. Oftentimes I feel as though I am somewhat of an “old soul” because of the things I have been through, learned, and experienced. While I still have a long way to go, there is one thing I have discovered to be true: life is a journey that requires patience, grace, and love. And love itself requires the most patience and grace of all of life’s journeys.

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In our western culture, we often demand and expect instant gratification. Most products and services cater to our crazy, hectic, and busy lifestyles on the go, and we’ve come to mandate nothing less. Unfortunately, that mentality has spilled over into our marriages, families, and relationships. We want a self-serving, drive-thru, instant gratification kind of life, but that’s the opposite of what relationships require.

Love needs nurturing and patience. It is a marathon not a sprint. Slowly it blossoms and grows establishing deeper, stronger roots all the while. The more we love it and care for it, the stronger and more radiant it becomes. This requires patience, endurance, and determination. All of the blood, sweat, and tears though are well worth it because the rewards of a true and lasting love and marriage far outweigh any of life’s other offerings.

There’s a song that I think captures the ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and patience that love requires. It talks of the journey of determination, grace, endurance, and perseverance in a beautiful, unwavering way. Honestly, I adore this song and its captivating lyrics about a bold yet tender and tenacious love and just know you will too. It’s called I Won’t Give Up by Jason Mraz.

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, April 16th, 2013

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Who do you go to when you need relationship advice?

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I think this is a super important question to ask for several reasons. One is that your inner circle has a lot of influence, and you want to make sure that it is influencing you in a good way. The other reason is that you need to protect your marriage. Sometimes when we share with family members about issues with our spouse, we tend to forget that they don’t forgive and forget quite as easily as we do, so it’s important to use discretion in the amount that’s shared with them in order to protect those relationships and your marriage.

For me, I do seek the counsel of my family – my mom, dad, and sisters – although I keep things very general and usually frame it in a way that is an “us” issue. I don’t just vent with my family; I choose very specific times that I need solid advice, wisdom, and prayer. My best friend Di is the other person I frequent most often for advice. She is an amazing, trustworthy, Christian friend who has been an incredible sounding board. She values and loves my husband too (our husbands are besties), and she is always pushing me back toward him and our marriage in her advice, which is so important. In every situation though, I am seeking God’s wisdom and guidance through prayer!

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Tuesday, March 26th, 2013

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What are some of your favorite Easter traditions?

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Easter is one of my favorite holidays because of the message of hope and freedom attached to it. Knowing that Jesus died on the cross for our sins but then defeated death through His resurrection giving us life, forgiveness, and the reconciliation to God that we could never have earned or deserved … so powerful! Easter is certainly a reason to celebrate and rejoice, and that we do!

Since Steve and I rarely get to be with our families during Easter, we love to take it as an opportunity to open up our home to others who can’t be with their families either. After attending Easter service at our church, I make a huge feast of ham, candied yams, egg noodles in ham broth, rolls, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy, and some yummy desserts, which is reminiscent of the feasts my mom made growing up. We bust out the china and crystal, like Steve grew up with his family doing, and we host a big afternoon of fellowship.

It always makes me think of the Last Supper, and how Jesus valued fellowship and relationships. I love getting to serve others and let them know they are loved. Holidays, like Easter, are a wonderful opportunity to reach out in love and kindness and open our hearts and homes.

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Talking Tuesday

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

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How do you personally deal with disappointment in your life? Specifically when people disappoint you?

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To be honest, it’s tough for me when people disappoint me. I feel hurt, betrayed, and angry. My natural tendency is to just walk away wounded and guarded. A big part of me just wants to avoid ever being hurt or disappointed again which can only lead to isolation and loneliness. I’ve come to realize that we all disappoint people from time to time. I’m just as guilty as the next even though that would never be my intention. So, if I’m hoping to never be disappointed, I will be disappointed to discover that’s not realistic.

It would be really nice to never feel the sadness and rejection that disappointment brings, but that’s just part of life. For me, I’ve learned to dust myself off, pray for the grace to forgive, and be more cognizant of how I can learn from the experience in a constructive and healthy way. This is a work in progress I might add. Sometimes it’s easier said than done.

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